Transcript
These are some small mind hacks. This will be a quick video, but these are some small mind hacks you can do that will change your entire perspective.
near instantly.
And the first one, I alluded to a couple of these on Twitter, but this is the first one.
The first one is a very, very important one. It's probably the most important one.
and it's changing
I have to
the sentence I have to or the saying I have to,
into I get to.
A lot of people are extremely stressed about things that they have to do.
And because they have to do them, or they understand the importance of doing them,
They forget that it's actually a blessing to do them in the first place.
because they're obligated, when you're obligated to do something,
You forget that it's actually a good thing.
If I, like for example, going to the gym is something people can enjoy.
When I was a fighter and I had to go to the gym twice a day, every day,
Like anything in life, once you're obligated, once you have to, a lot of the fun disappears.
So I have to.
implicates an obligation.
Whereas I get to implicates a choice.
So I'll give you an example. If you wake up and you're really busy, you think I have to take the kids to school, I have to go to work.
I have to take the car to be repaired.
Those are three things which are not necessarily fun to do.
They're everyday activities. They're things you could be stressed about. You're low on time. You've got to get the kids ready for school. You've got to get to work. And there's a problem with the car.
If you change I have to do those three things into I get to do those three
the mentality around the actions change.
So I get to take the kids to school.
A lot of people don't have kids. A lot of people want kids and can't get them.
There's a lot of kids who can't go to school.
you get to take your children to school.
which is a blessing in itself. Yeah, I have to take the kids to school. You get to take them to school.
Aren't you lucky?
I have to go to work. Well, you get to go to work.
Imagine you didn't have a job.
Imagine right now you lost your job.
If you lost your job right now overnight and you had no income,
your whole life would be upside down. You'd be in turmoil. And you'd miss your job very much, and you wish you had your job back.
So you get to go to work. You don't have to go to work.
That's once again a good thing.
Even something
as annoying as a car bringing, I have to take the car to the mechanics. Well, at least you get to take the car to the mechanics. Imagine you didn't have a car.
Imagine there was no mechanic.
So next time you're sitting there looking at your day, or looking at a list of things, or jobs you have to complete, or you're stressed, or low on time, and all these things are happening, I have to do this, I've got to get this done, I have to do this, I have to do this.
Change the language. I get to do X, Y, Z.
And I guarantee you'll feel better about the activities near instantly.
And this is something you can do very, very quickly.
And this is the second little mind hack and this video is short because I want you to implement these. I want you to take time to genuinely make sure you implement these two things.
Change I have to to I get to.
And the second one is, and then I can.
So when you have to do something difficult, add a "and then I can" on the end. For example, with me with the gym. I'm being honest with you, I don't like the gym anymore. I'm doing it for too long. But I understand its importance and I don't want to miss it. So I think, you know what, I'm going to go train, I'm going to train hard because then I can relax.
So adding and then I get to, on to the end of basically anything, can give you a lot of motivation. So even the simple activities we labeled earlier, the I have to things, I have to get the kids ready for school,
I have to go to work, I have to fix the car. If you change it to "I get to take the kids to school"
I get to go to work, I get to get the car fixed,
and then I can relax. Or, and then I'm going to give myself, I'm going to treat myself, I'm going to allow myself to have a glass of wine or some ice cream, whatever.
Add and then onto the end of every single difficult task and change I have to to I get to. Try that for a week.
and you'll see exactly how your entire world changes.