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PhD course part two.
more knowledge for you motherfuckers.
I don't have a whiteboard this time.
Well, I do.
there.
I'm not moving in.
So this is, as I said at the end, the first PhD. If you have any questions you want to ask me, if there's any information you feel like you need that I didn't portray,
to drop me some emails. I've had some really interesting emails with some interesting questions, so I'm gonna answer them here.
I'm going to keep all the names and everything anonymous so no one knows who asked what. And I'm going to obviously this email is going to go out to everyone who bought the course.
The reason I'm not answering specifically to each person who asked me the question is because maybe
Some of the points I'm going to mention in these questions are valid for people who didn't particularly ask the questions. I think there's knowledge in here from everybody. So let's get started.
First things first, first email I had, "Hi Andrew, amazing course.
Of course, of course, ha, ha, ha. Anyway, I've been learning a lot from your content.
Of course.
Dolores, some questions to have in mind. So, one, aside from Instagram or social media, what are your recommended alternatives for gay and girls?
Social media can be distracting, but not everyone wants to expose to our lifestyle.
Valid point.
If you don't want to use social media, you have a few choices. You have in-person, which is obviously the old school way.
Very doable.
But I'd say it's a harder, it's much harder for me to teach.
It's difficult for me to teach it in a course.
Only a week ago, I was in New York with myself, Christian McQueen, and Goldman Unleashed. We were all together in the club.
with one guy who's trying to learn from us, and he learned from all three of us at once, that lucky fucker.
But going up to girls and approaching them, really, and I know this doesn't sound cliche, it's about confidence.
It's about not being creepy.
It's about a few basic tips and tricks. I'll give you some basic tips and tricks but it's real...
It's hard for me to put it into a course.
If you really want to know how to approach girls on the street or approach girls in a club,
and have the best possible chance of them speaking to you, that's fine.
Email me separately. We'll put together some training.
Look, I'm a real person.
I'm not something to do with the internet.
If you say, look, Tate,
I really want to learn how to do this. I say, okay, look, get a flight to Paris or get a flight here, get a flight, whatever, whatever.
Let's be up.
And let's hit the club and I'll show you how I do it.
So, tips and tricks for approaching girls.
First things first is you have to get their attention.
Now, I've seen the biggest mistake I've probably seen guys make is that they don't get a girl's attention before they try and talk to
They go up to her and they say, "Oh, excuse me, you're a little pretty." "Excuse me, my name's Kevin," or whatever.
Women are female.
Females are females.
I mean, their mindset's feeling, they're distracted, they're thinking about
fucking bullshit and
gossip girls and sex in the city and their brains are a mess.
for women.
Well, they're thinking about me because I fucked them two years ago and I can't get over it.
So you have to get 100% of their attention.
You can't go up to a girl in a bar while she's on her phone or while she talks to her friends and say, "Excuse me, my name's Kevin." She's going to be like, "What?"
Her saying what, or I don't understand you, or I can't hear you,
is a bad first response to your approach.
It's just a negative start. What? What? What? It's just negative.
So you have to get their attention.
And the way I do that is by being supremely confident with the fact that I want to talk to them. So I'll go up to a girl,
I'll say, excuse me, I'll tap her on the shoulder, excuse me.
She'll stop. She'll look at me.
and I will literally delay for a second or two.
I'll wait for her to give me her full attention and fully look at me.
before I say something.
So,
This is the most important thing. I've seen too many people fuck that up. You have to get the girl's attention.
This is in the club.
It's one thing. But on the street or somewhere else, it's even more important.
You go up to a girl while she's walking, "Oh, beautiful girl!" She's like, "What the fuck, what?"
It's going to mean annoyance to her. If you say, excuse me, excuse me, and you make her stop, and you say, sorry, I didn't want to stop you.
But,
And then you start to talk. When she has, when you have 100% of her attention, she's devoting attention to you.
to compliment you're going to give her, because that's what it effectively is,
has a lot more weight and a lot more value, as opposed to just throwing it at her while she walks down the street.
First things first is get their attention
Make them pay attention to you.
Personally, I cut straight to the point.
I say to her, I say, you're absolutely beautiful.
And if you say that, there's very little bad or wrong they can say. I mean, if they're a complete dickhead,
Or if they have a boyfriend, they might go, okay, thanks, and turn around.
That's a fine interaction. Nothing bad's happened.
You haven't been insulted. You haven't been shot down really.
So this will give you the confidence to approach any girl you want. If you get her attention, tell her she's beautiful.
Even if she goes, "Oh, okay, thanks."
and turns around, then you can just walk off. What bad's happened?
Nothing.
But if she goes, oh, thank you, thank you.
and she continues to look at you, then you know
She wants you to keep talking to her.
So that's my opener.
People have different openers.
That's my personal approach.
I've seen a lot of guys who go, oh, my name's Kevin or whatever.
The reason I don't do that is because I don't think she gives a fuck what your name is, bro.
She doesn't even know you.
Excuse me, yeah, my name's Andrew.
So...
Who the fuck are you?
Like that, internally that's what she's thinking.
Whereas if you see saying my name's Andrew means all the-- it's all about me. The attention's on me. Here's who I am.
She doesn't care who you are because she doesn't know you.
Saying you are beautiful means the attention is all about her.
and she's more likely to respond positively,
to a compliment which is all about her,
than an introduction from some dude who she doesn't fucking know. She doesn't care about who you are.
So I say, "You're absolutely beautiful to say thanks." I say, "Socialist." I say, "What's your name?"
And she'll tell me,
Da da da
and then I'll start talking shit.
So what do I say when I start talking shit? I don't know. I'll talk absolute garbage. It depends where I am. It depends on the situation.
But like I said in the first lesson in the PhD course, we're always aiming for progressions.
So if we're in,
A bar, I'll go up and say, excuse me, you have to see people. They'll say, oh, thanks, Senator. I'll go, good news.
See, I use little things like that.
If I say:
If I say, I've got good news, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
She doesn't respond as much. I'll say, I have good news.
And she said, "Good news, what?" I'll start getting her to respond. And I'll do that with little breaks. So I have good news to her. I said, "Me and you are drinking."
And if she's with other girls, they'll say, all of us are drinking. We're all drinking. We're all drinking vodka. And I'll just point them and say, vodka.
and I'll start ordering shit with the vulgar shop.
"Oh, I don't drink vodka, da-da-da." You do with me.
start being assertive drinks told her she's beautiful who's this dude whoa vodka's coming oh vodka okay cheers everyone cheers bang
and your friends.
Another little trick I'll give, if you've been talking to a girl for three or four minutes,
before you've
Introduce yourself.
A good trick I'll give is
If you ask her her name,
And she says, "It's Katie, you're right."
Leave it a second.
and wait to see if she asks
you your name back.
So let's say you were talking to a girl, you meet her in a coffee shop, you're talking shit. Oh, the line in this coffee shop's always so long.
"Yeah, I know, it's too long." If I owned a coffee shop, I'd make sure my staff had to run everywhere.
Otherwise they don't get fired.
Because I'm the king.
*giggle*
"Well, you should open a coffee shop then." "I will. You gonna come in?" "Yeah, I'll always buy coffee from you."
Typical bullshit conversation I have with those.
that I'm eating coffee shops.
Oh, do you know?
Talk to her for a few minutes, I'll say. So what's your name? Katie.
After she tells me her name,
I'll pause for a second.
I don't introduce myself, I pause.
And I wait to see if she asks me my name.
This is a huge tell.
and I've heard this somewhere else before, I can't remember where,
But it's something I observed and something I used before I heard it somewhere else. And it's true. You say, what's your name? Katie. And then you wait. And she goes, and you? I said, oh, my name's Andrew.
Then she's interested in you.
You say, what's your name? She goes, Katie.
And she doesn't give a fuck who you are. I have to talk with you for a few minutes.
that it's probably not going to go anywhere.
It doesn't mean you have to abandon the whole procedure. It just means be aware that it's probably not going to go anywhere.
So that's a few tricks, tip, trick, tip.
Thank you.
Tips.
Fuckin' hell, no edits.
Tips and tricks.
picking up girls in person, but a lot of that shit and that charisma and stuff, that's just down to practice.
I think I talked about Luke the man in the first video. Did I talk about Luke the man in the first PhD video?
I can't remember.
I'm going to talk about Luke the Man again.
So when my brother worked in a coffee shop, there was a,
a black guy from the Ivory Coast Republic.
called Luke.
And he was broke. He worked at a coffee shop. He was African, black.
ugly, skinny, no money.
And he used to try on
every girl came in that shop. If you wanted to buy a coffee,
He just gives a coffee and says, "Hey baby, you're so beautiful."
This is before that whole, this is about, this is interested in working. Pray.
Tristan was about 10, 11 years ago, before this Me Too shit. He would be fired by now for fucking sexual misconduct.
"Hey, you're so beautiful, you're so beautiful." You say to every single girl,
And he always just commonly said, what's your name? And he'd go, Luke.
Like James Bond, James, James Bond.
Luke the man
who used to call himself.
Here's a G.
Anyway.
So he used to travel with every single girl. And he was so ugly and had no money that he used to get shot down 99 times out of 100.
And my brother, being young, used to say to him, why do you do that? They all say no to you. He goes, yes. Yes.
But some say yes.
And one day, Luke came in with pictures of a Hungarian girl
Must have been like some racist Hungarian girl whose fathers are strict Christian. She had some fantasy about fucking a black dude.
I don't know, but she was a fucking nine.
- Ha.
And Luke is as ugly and as poor as you can get. He's in a worse position than any of you.
And he fucked this fucking Hungarian
Super Bowl.
And they had pictures of her naked. My brother's like, how the fuck did you do that? He goes, ah, because I'm Luke the man.
Luke the man keeps trying.
And this is an important lesson.
you haven't really gonna have anything.
If you're prepared to do the numbers, if you're really that militant about it and you don't give a shit about getting shot down, then you're never going to fail.
That's the truth. If you're that militant with your numbers.
But,
If you're like me, I'm selective. I'm not one of them dudes who's like day game,
run around the mall all day going up to every girl I see
I'm not like that. That's not me.
I'm calm, cool, and collected.
I'll approach a bitch once a week maybe.
And she's got to be fucking...
Oh.
Fine. I ain't gone to know basics, sevens and shit.
I have enough girls.
So if I go up to a girl, it's like if I see a 10,
then I'll go approach a girl.
But in reality, I don't often do it. But if I do do it,
That's how it's done.
Another way you can do it is Tinder. Everyone uses Tinder.
Tinder is perfectly doable. You can meet good girls on Tinder. There's nothing wrong with Tinder.
So Tinder, short answer, Tinder.
But,
whether you're on Tinder or in person progression. So if I meet a girl in person, I still get the Instagram.
And I get Instagram within three to four minutes.
I still do that.
or I still get the WhatsApp.
Exactly the same.
And if I'm talking to them on Tinder, you want to get them off Tinder ASAP.
If I'm talking to a girl in the club,
I'll talk to her after we've had the shots. So what's your Instagram? I bet you have loads of men following you.
Who, not that many...
25,000 dudes.
fall around.
I follow her Insta. I get the Instagram early on so I have her content details to hit her up later.
So I get that shit early.
Same with Tinder. If you're talking to her on Tinder, then she's talking to loads of dudes on Tinder. Talk to her a little bit, just like the lessons in the first PhD course, talk a little bit of shit, four or five minutes,
Bang, try and get her Instagram or WhatsApp, get her off Tinder.
get into a platform to reduce the numbers.
You're always looking to reduce the numbers.
You're talking to her in real life?
Everyone can talk to her.
Reduce it to her Instagram, 25,000. Reduce that to her WhatsApp, a couple hundred. Reduce that to dating, one guy.
Always looking to reduce the numbers.
So whether it's Tinder or in person,
Progression. You're not looking to just talk shit. Keep contact details and progress.
Next.
Big Daddy Tay.
You mentioned that your girl cannot have male friends and she'd be interested in talking to you and you only.
Correct.
How can this be achieved without behaving like an insecure beta who is mate guarding?
Attractive women often have multiple guys texting her even when she's not interested at all. What actions would you take?
Very good question.
and also
The person who said this is perspicacious enough to know
that you don't want to look exactly like he said, an insecure bait's a mate's garden.
So mate guarding is when you're like, oh, like just super protective, pathetically protective over your girl. That's not alpha quality. So how do you approach this from the alpha stance?
Well, it depends.
If it's a girl who you're just seeing and dating,
There's not much you can do about it.
You don't have the authority yet.
If it's a girl you've been with for a while,
There's a lot you can do about it.
So if I'm just dating a girl and I know she's dating dudes or talking to dudes, whatever, I do nothing.
I don't give a shit.
I'll fuck her. I'll progress towards banging her. I'll let her do what she's going to do.
I'll bang her and I'll do the test we talked about in the first episode.
The cut attention test. Bang! Cut the attention off.
And then we'll see how she reacts from there.
If I fuck her and she chases me badly, then I'm going to know the other dude she's talking to Shane I'm interested in.
because she's chasing me for my attention after everyone's texting me.
If I have sex with her,
And I don't hear from her. And she's a bit annoyed by it. But she starts chasing her other dudes. And she ain't worth shit anyway.
Once again for that test, I'm not saying stop talking to the girl completely. I'm not saying that.
I'm saying reduce your attention.
Reduce your attention. It has to be... It's a fine line. You have to reduce your attention enough
so that she can feel something's changed.
but not too much so she can call you out on it.
You gotta be just at that line and you can play innocent. You should just say, oh, you fucked me and you're not talking to me anymore.
Don't want to be able to say that.
You've got to reduce it enough so she doesn't feel comfortable.
I don't feel comfortable, I don't feel like he likes me.
It's that fine line. I'm not saying never talk to her.
I'm saying reduce the attention. That's what I say.
If it's a girl you've been with for a while,
You don't fucking lay it down, bro.
What the fuck's she doing?
If you say to her,
We've been together a few months now.
I don't like these dudes texting you.
If you had no legs and was fat and was in a wheelchair, they wouldn't text you.
They're not texting you for your personality.
They text you because you're attractive.
I don't feel comfortable with that.
Is she?
I'm your man. If you want to talk to a man, you can talk to me. Stop replying to these guys.
And if you say that to her, she goes, no, I really like them. They're my friends.
If she's gonna choose them over you,
that she's going to cheat on you in the end anyway.
This is the harsh reality of the games.
If you lay it down and say it's me or them,
and she chooses them.
then what's the possibility of her being loyal to you in the long term?
It's zero.
It may be a time frame.
But in the end, it's zero.
If her texting these dudes who want to fuck her
is more important than keeping you happy,
then eventually she's going to cheat.
So the question is this.
What do you do?
Well?
If she chooses them, it's better to end the relationship there and walk off as a hero.
and to upset her and destroy her heart.
Then to let it slowly fade away while she slowly falls in love with some new dude
So you end up catching her cheating on you with some other guy. And then when you're upset,
She doesn't give a fuck. Because women are ruthless.
So we'll make that clear to you one more time.
You lay it down and you say,
I don't like to talk to another man. I'm your man. You don't talk to other men. If you talk to other men,
I'm not going to be able to take you seriously. So this is not going to be a relationship we're going to do.
She goes, "Oh no, well, I want to do that." And she says, "Yeah, alright, cool. Alright, I just told you I'm not comfortable with it. If you want to keep talking to them, then talk to them."
That's all you do. And then you reduce your attention right down.
Reduce it completely. Are you all on the scene tonight? I'm busy.
Reduce your tension right now.
"Oh, fine, if you're gonna be upset 'cause I'm talking to guys, fine, fuck you, then. You're never gonna control me. I like to have friends."
If that's the kind of person she is, she's going to cheat on you eventually anyway.
So your choices are:
You leave her and she's upset or she cheats on you and you're upset.
Which one's better?
Well, I'll tell you, the one that's better is upsetting her. Not just because it avoids you discomfort, but also because if you upset her, you're going to have an emotional hangover that allows you to get her back later.
I've had this exact scenario, girls. Exact scenario.
I said, why are you talking to this guy? I've known him since school. I said, I don't care how long you've known him. He still wants to fuck you, so stop talking to him.
I hope I've known him forever. We've only been together a few months."
Tell him you have a boyfriend.
And that you're still friends. You can't really meet up with a new boyfriend.
and stop fucking texting.
Simple.
Oh, but you know, I just think you're trying to control me. I said, all right, forget it. Do you want, well, I'm not taking you seriously when you talk to a bunch of guys. I'm not taking that kind
See you soon.
"Oh yeah, well, whatever."
Cut my attention right down. She got fresh. I dumped her.
Now I'm telling you something.
That girl, this is a long time ago,
That girl once every four to five months.
to this day.
likes a picture on my Instagram.
or
fucking drops me some bullshit meme in my Facebook inbox.
Still trying to, this day, this was years ago.
Because...
I'm the Dying Doctor.
My intention is the most valuable.
Remember the lessons from the first one. My attention is the most valuable because my attention is hard to get. She didn't do what I wanted.
She didn't conform.
to be the way I want her to be.
Where's my piece of paper? FDB.
Fuck you. Bye. I found another girl.
You're not in the business of turning a hoe into a housewife.
If a girl's mentality is I need to talk to lots of men all the time,
It's not your job to fix it, bro.
That's not your job.
Lay it down, make it clear, and make her make a choice.
It's really as simple as that.
But you have to be prepared to walk away if you don't get what you want. Like Trump said, the art of the deal is,
And it may upset you, you may be annoyed, you may lose a girl you like, you don't really want it, da-da-da.
But this is the truth.
You're looking for a wife or you're looking for a girl you can be with forever.
She ain't that girl.
So...
Cut your attention right now and find someone else.
If she won't comply, that's how you handle that.
Three, you talked about dropping attention after having sex with a woman. Will this increase the girls the risk of a false rape?
accusation.
E.g. the girl
feeling used or manipulated.
Very valid question, and this is why I said,
drop the attention to a very important fine line level.
where she can feel...
that the attention's dropped.
but she cannot call you out on it.
It's that perfect level of
I don't want to say anything. I can't say. He is texting me back.
But,
It doesn't feel the same.
It's just that perfect level.
So that's something you have to do with experience. You have to cut the attention down,
but she can't be able to call you out on it. So that handles that. But a very good question.
expanding on the approaching stage,
This guy, sorry, next question. Will you be expanding on the approaching stage?
Approaching girls, I'll give you some tips in the first question, but
It's really something you have to see.
If I had to break it down to three things, it would be get their attention first,
It's absolutely not really a numbers game especially when you're approaching girls. If you're going up to girls in the club, they might have done drugs, they don't want to pay attention, they might be too drunk, they might have their boyfriend in the club or an ex-boyfriend in the club.
or it might be a bunch of people in the club they know, and they don't want to be seen talking to guys.
There's so many outside influences when you're approaching girls.
that you really have to be prepared to do a complete numbers
You have to be prepared to approach, approach, approach, approach.
If you want to pause the same night.
especially in the modern world.
So it's a numbers game, absolutely.
Get their attention first. And whatever you say, the first thing you say after you get their attention should be a compliment.
That's my...
advice.
Right.
Next question. This is a very, very long question.
but it's about a guy who does his approaches
Um...
at colleges during the week and aims to take the girls he meets during the week to bars at the weekend.
and close the deal.
very efficient system, I agree with that.
But his question very basically is,
I can't seem to figure out the cold approaching during the day because I feel it's a totally different vibe versus approaching in a club or a bar.
I get a few leads during the day,
But sometimes there's something I'm missing in my day game that I can't seem to figure out. I'm not hitting the level of leads I should be getting during the day.
Versus the leads, I get it.
I'll tell you what, and obviously I don't know the exact scenario, but I'll tell you what this thing is.
I probably answered a lot of this question in the previous question.
but
The reason it's easier at night is because one, it's a more relaxed vibe.
Two girls are drinking.
and the more sociable.
That's the reason it's easier. The music on, they're happy. No one goes out. No one really goes out when they're depressed or busy or stressed. They go out to be happy.
They're happy. They're drinking. They're with their moron friends, talking about moron shit. They're receptive.
So they're more receptive at night than they are during the day.
So why are you doing better at night than during the day? Well, I do think it's easier at night. You're probably always going to do a little bit better at night than you are during the day.
However,
You're saying if your day game is seriously lacking, the first thing is
Like I said, are you getting her attention before you talk to her?
Are you doing that properly?
Second thing, are you complimenting her?
And third thing is how are you getting her contact details?
I find
This is why I use Instagram so much.
Instagram is so useful because even I find that a girl who doesn't really want to give you her phone number
will happily give you her Instagram.
So,
Because Instagram is public.
Instagram is for everyone.
So if you want leaves during the day, instead of trying to get the phone number, which can be a little bit awkward,
And especially in the world we live in now, the Me Too era, all these girls are sketchy as fuck. They're all living on edge, they're all nervous.
You talk to a girl for five minutes, say, oh, what's your phone number?
They can be a bit like, they don't want to give it out.
If you say, I'll tell you what, it was really nice talking to you. You're beautiful. I want to follow you on Instagram.
Not give me your Instagram. I want to follow you on Instagram.
A girl doesn't say no to that because they let anyone follow them on Instagram.
Anyone can follow a monastime.
So what I'll do is I'll say, oh, it was really nice talking to you. Yeah, you're really beautiful. I'll tell you what, I want to see your face again. I'm going to follow you on Instagram. What's your Instagram?
and I'll give them my phone
In fact, I try to avoid doing that. Because a couple times I've given them my phone. And like a WhatsApp has come up. Love you baby. And all those two shit. So. But I'll tell you. What's your Instagram? Then I'll type your Instagram in.
But before
You walk off, they'll just go, "Okay, bye."
Follow them, click message, and then what I'll do is, in fact, let me see if I've got it fucking right here. I know you guys know I don't lie. Let me see if I can find one.
an example of why do.
I did this like two days ago.
I've got so many messages in my inbox.
I don't know where to find it. That was New York.
is after I left New York.
Thank you.
No edits. You guys are going to sit there and wait.
Da da da da da.
Fuck knows.
Alright, so anyway, I got her Instagram.
And then while she was watching me,
While she was paying attention,
I sent her a message of cherries. Cherries are my thing. Choose your own fruit.
So I get her Instagram and I click message and I send her something.
Or you can send her selfies, another good idea.
Ask for her Instagram. She'll give it to you. Click follow and go, oh, you probably have loads of guys messaging you.
Oh, no, I don't. You must do, because you've got loads of guys. I don't want you to forget about me. Here, wait, wait.
Go camera and do a selfie, a stupid picture, and send it to her message.
And she'll laugh hard and say, now you know who I am.
I'm going to message you later. I'll also say I'm going to message you later to get some kind of verbal agreement.
"Oh, OK." And what they'll reply is instinctively, "Oh, OK." And then when you message them, they feel more compelled to reply, "Well, I agree to message them."
Now, if she messages you a little bit and it doesn't go anywhere, whatever.
But I'm just talking about to make it easier to get the leads.
So don't ask for numbers, ask for Instagrams.
Message them while there. Do a selfie or send some fruit or some bullshit. And say something like, I'm going to message you later. I want to talk to you.
I'm super forward with what I do and say.
But I'm not over the... I'm not creepy with it.
I'm just very clear about my objectives.
Watch your Instagram, you're beautiful.
I'm gonna follow you. Okay, I'm gonna message you later. I want to talk to you. I'm gonna talk to you later. Okay, okay. I'm very clear about what I want to happen.
So that's probably the advice I'd give you. I'd have to see your approach.
to see if there's anything else missing.
But try to ask for phone number, ask for Instagrams.
Get their attention first.
and the first thing you say needs to be a compliment. If you do those three things,
You can't really go too wrong.
Especially if you're confident with what you're saying and etc. etc.
but you can't really go too long for them.
So that's why I recommend
Right.
Last question for today, gentlemen.
Bet you didn't expect this free PhD video in your inbox, did you, motherfuckers?
They're all sitting there going, okay, that was a good course. Bang, more content, more fucking knowledge from Tate.
Best purchase you ever made.
and too damn nice.
Two nights.
to a video about how nice I
Right, I have a question. I've got this chick on lock and she's loyal to me. Congratulations.
What do I say to her if I bang another chick and the main one finds out?
How can I get away with having multiple girls?
Right.
sitting down with your girl and saying, "I wanna fuck other girls."
ain't really a conversation that's going to go well.
It's just an awful conversation.
Truth of it is,
You have to be militant.
And I'm smiling because I'm laughing at how I do it.
So I've got my chick who's loyal to me and she loves me.
So what do I do?
I fuck other girls.
sooner or later she's going to catch me.
And this is your chance.
So you don't have the conversation with her. Women are not logical enough. You can't approach women and say,
This is what's going to happen.
Let's do a deal and be logical and make a deal.
They don't work that way.
You got hit in with shock and awe of emotion.
So you're going to cheat as normal. You're going to do your thing. You're going to fuck your hoes.
And maybe she won't find out for a year. Maybe she won't find out for two years. Maybe she'll find out after a week.
But when she finds out, that's when the pimping starts.
So when I get caught cheating, I don't worry about it. I'm like, oh, okay, now we get to...
Hammered out.
So the key things are this.
I have a girl who's loyal to me and I fuck anyone I want.
And I do that by, I did it as follows. I was with her for about a year,
and two or three months.
before I got called.
- Cheese.
In fact,
Fuck, I've got some screenshots.
I need to find on Facebook
from my old phone. I got an old phone working and I had screenshots of that conversation when she first caught me cheating. I put them on Facebook because it was so funny.
I'm gonna find him and try and assert him in this video.
If they're in this video, in the following seconds, I did a good job and I found them.
So anyway.
The keys are this, you just caught your cheating.
Ben, rule one is,
You never...
ever apologize.
You are not sorry.
They take that weakness and they fucking twist it.
and they use it against you.
And this is not just for cheating, this is relationships in general.
You are never sorry.
Because once you admit fault,
A woman doesn't sit and go, okay,
He admits he's wrong.
Or he admits that this is not the best situation. He admits that nothing.
I'll be nice to him. You think, "Oh, he knows he's wrong. Let me just fucking... Let me squeeze as much uncomfortable inconvenience out of this as possible."
So don't do that shit.
You're not sorry.
And another thing you don't do is you don't lie.
Because lying is cowardice.
So, when I get cock-cheating... sit up. When I get cock-cheating,
Should be like...
Who the fuck is this? That was a girl I fucked.
What? What? Yeah, it's a girl I slept with, but obviously you're my girlfriend. I love you. I don't care about her.
But why? I'm a full grown man. It's one of those things that happens, but I don't care about her. So it doesn't matter.
I have apologized and I haven't lied.
Now, if she really loves you and she's really loyal to you, she ain't going nowhere.
Now, if she's gonna leave you for that small thing, fucking someone else,
that she's not on lock. So, you're telling me your girl's on lock.
If your girl's on lock, like my girl is on lock, and all my girls are on lock, then what I'm saying to you is going to work.
And that is, yeah, I fucked her. Listen, I'm a full grown man.
Sometimes I do what I do, but
I will love you.
And one other thing I say is, I say, this is testament to how much I love you. Most dudes are out there fucking other girls, fall in love with other girls.
I fuck other girls. I don't even care about them.
Only girl I care about is you. I sleep with girls and they don't even cross my mind anymore.
So this shows I love you more than fucking anything.
Most of these guys are out here and if they fuck someone else, they fall in love with someone else.
You know me, I fuck a hundred girls and I'm still here with you. You're the only girl I care about.
So what are you worried about? What's the problem?
And then eventually, after this long conversation, because she's going to cry and she's going to complain and all this shit.
All you have to do is not back down.
She's gonna come at you with things like, "Ooh, is it gonna happen again?" Say, "I don't know, probably not, maybe not."
If it really upsets you, we can talk about it.
but I don't like you trying to control me and tell me what to do. Like I'm going to do what I feel like doing.
I'm telling you that I'm loyal to you because I only love you.
So I'm loyal to you just the same.
What you have to do is you have to shift their perception of loyalty.
A female's perception of loyalty is he only has sex with me.
You have to change that from he only has sex with me to he only loves me.
If they understand that I'm the only one he loves, but he has sex with lots of people,
then you can do it.
So that's the real aim of the game.
And you cannot do that from a position of weakness or apology. That's done from a position of strength and never backing down.
So,
The individual conversation you're going to have is going to be different than the individual conversations I've had.
But if you're not apologetic to cheating, you don't lie, you should explain, look, it was just sex.
You have a dildo. You have a vibrator.
I'm not jealous. I don't care. Do you love your vibrator? No, you fucked it or you use it and then you don't care anymore. That's what I did.
So what's the problem?
"Oh, but how do I know you don't love her?" And that's what's going to come in. That's what's going to eventually, that's what the conversation is going to eventually lead.
How do I know I'm special?
That's the final hurdle. When you start hearing things like that, you've won.
Because all you have to do is convince her she's so special and she can do anything.
Ta-da!
So,
Once you start saying things like how do I know especially like, "Look, I only love you. You know I only love you." Or, "I only live with you."
Or you're the only girl I've taken on holiday.
Or you're the only girl who, whatever, whatever you come up with.
You're the only girl I do these things with. Yeah, I fucked some girl. I was out. I fucked some weird hours with other guys. I fucked some girl. She's tried to see me since, and I didn't want to see her because I don't care about her. Or she's tried to see me since. I saw her a few times, but she's boring. I don't like any girl but you. These girls are boring.
All you have to do is convince her she's still special.
And that.
you're still loyal to her because you love her and you do what you want.
My bro's not allowed to say I cheat.
She used to say, oh, we are always cheating.
Oh, you're going out. She used to make a joke of it. Oh, you're going out. I put clothes on. She goes, oh, you're dressed up. You're going to cheat me tonight.
I say, "Don't tell me how cheat. I don't like that line."
She goes, why? I said, because I don't cheat because I love you. I only love you. Oh, fuck something. It's not cheating because I'm loyal to you.
I got to the point now where she doesn't even think I cheat. I'm a fucking girl. She doesn't even call it cheating.
So go, you're going out? Yeah, you can be back tonight. He said, no, no, okay.
She doesn't call it cheating.
Because
The camera got to shake his head.
Because he knows it's true.
But...
Because my loyalty is not defined by who I have sex with, my loyalty is defined by who I love.
So by convincing her she's special and she's the only one I love,
that I'm allowed to do, I won't.
Now,
If you're going to try and have multiple girlfriends, then that's going to be harder because she's going to think, oh, you care about them and you care about me.
If you're gonna try and have different girls living in the same house, in the same bed, like I've done, that's gonna be harder. That's a new level.
But the basic level, the base level is, you've got your girl who you care about and you can fuck who you want.
And as long as she's getting attention and she feels like she's special and she understands that she's the only one you love. And that's where loyalty is. Loyalty is through love, it's not through sex.
then you're going to be able to do it again.
So that's the main aim of the game.
I hope I've answered that question. There's no very specific formula.
But that's the basis of it. Have your girl unlock, do your thing, wait for her to catch you. Do not apologize. Do not back down.
change her perception, shift her thinking to understand that love is about loyalty,
Loyal.
Loyalty is about love. Loyalty is not about who you have sex with.
For the same reason she'll fuck a toy or whatever, you'll fuck a girl you don't care about, and there's nothing more than that. She needs to get over it.
And usually you're gonna have questions like, well, girls are gonna laugh at me. Say, these girls are gonna laugh at you, these girls are jealous of you.
This is the number one question I ask you. Well, girls are going to laugh at me if they know you're fucking other girls.
I said, no, they're not.
Every single girl I fuck is desperate to be in your position.
Every girl I fuck is desperate to be my girlfriend.
They're all super jealous of you. They all want to be you. You're the only one I'm going on holiday with. You're the only one I'm in love with. You're the only one I put on my Instagram page. They're all completely jealous of you.
And girls like me, girls like lesbian.
So they don't show at the time, they think about it.
Even the girls are jealous.
If you start shifting it like, oh, these girls aren't hating on you. These girls are super jealous. You're the best. You get to be the fucking queen. Why treat nicely. I treat the other girls like hoes and they're jealous of you. You're the only one I love cause I'm loyal to you.
They're just stupid. You're not stupid. They're stupid.
shift the thinking.
and then you'll get away with it.
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