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The sexual marketplace, if you're a high value man, there's 20% of the guys fuck 90% of the girls.
This is the reality. So if you put yourself in the top 20% life's great.
Like it really, and the great thing about being a man is it's all, you can forge yourself purely at hard work.
Like obviously, people are born with some genetic gifts, whatever.
But you can basically forge yourself out of absolutely hard work.
So you're going to sit there and complain, oh, women this, women are hypergamous, women da-da-da-da-da. Like they're red-pullshit. Yeah, all that bullshit. I'm like, well, just make yourself a higher-value man. Welcome to the Adonix Podcast, where we discuss the best strategies to massively improve your aesthetics, love life, and overall growth as a badass individual. Yo, what is up, guys? Welcome to another episode of the Adonix Podcast. I'm your host, Conor Murphy. We got Big Brandon Carter back in the house.
special guests. You guys have probably heard of him. He is an absolute legend. Done so many amazing accomplishments.
Mr. Andrew Tate.
Yo, Andrew, what up, man? How you doing, gentlemen? I like the big Brandon Carr. I like the big. I want to be big Andrew Tate, man. Like, where's my big? You know what I'm saying? Initially, that came from-- I don't even know this, Conor. There was like another--
Motherfuckers named Brandon Carter was a motherfucker in the you in the WWE and
And there was a motherfucker who was, like, lighting it up in, like, some P1...
football team so like they was coming up on google search so like they would have a bit so i was like i mean they ain't nobody now but um at the time i was like i was calling myself big brandon carter just to get
you know this is a differentian state so it's my shit came up on Google it's just all for it yo that's a good reason that's a good I'm sure your girlfriend says there's another reason but we won't go in but uh yo man
Those of y'all don't know Andrew, I was recently introduced to his content. Like, honestly, I didn't know who he was, and that's not disrespectful. I didn't know who he was until one of my boys just put me on. He's like, yo,
One of my boys is new, he's single, man. All right. And, uh,
And you put me on to Andrew's content because Andrew-- and he was-- when I found out about him, Andrew's a four-time,
World champion kickboxing.
champion, right? A chess fucking genius.
Right. I don't know if I'm saying it right. I don't know if that's the term chess fucking genius. But and but he made his millions. This is the interesting part. You know, running a webcam business, having girls twerking on camera and a host of other things.
for some money, man. So I was like, man, this is a motherfucker. We need to get on a podcast, man. Yeah.
thank you man thank you thank you yeah man so listen man tell tell us about we're I don't even know where to begin man like any one of those okay we'll start we'll start at the beginning man so my my
Dad was a chess grandmaster.
Okay. And he was actually, right? Yeah. So he was the, he was the, at one point, he was the best black chess player in the world. Okay. And he wasn't the only. No, there's a few others. Yeah. There's another grandmaster from America called Maurice Ashley. He was a black guy and my dad whooped him a couple of times, but I'm.
Yeah, so my dad was the number one rated black chess player in the world, and he was like five times Armed Forces champion and Grandmaster, da-da-da. So he was really good at the game. I only really played it as a kid.
As a kid, I was growing up in Indiana and I played it and I became state chess champion when I was young and I was on track to being one of them chess genius kids.
And then my family split up and I moved to England with my mom.
And there was no chess in England, really. The whole kind of chess thing died. And so I kind of tried to find something else to fill my time with, ended up punching people in the face.
And that's good at punching and kicking him too. And kicking him in the face. Yeah, I mean yeah, my fight career, if I could do it again,
I probably would have wished I did MMA because MMA was obviously much bigger.
Yeah. I had three pro MMA fights. I got the videos. I won them all. I fought Luke Barnett, who was in the UFC. I beat some UFC guys, but just
In two of the three fights, I broke my hand because of the gloves.
and at the time i had i was offered a kickboxing contract which paid a lot more money and you have to pay the bills so i stuck with kickboxing and
So I fought for a long time in Europe, K1. I fought all over the world, fought everywhere from China to Vegas, fought everywhere. And then...
long story how I ended up in this webcam thing but I started making
three four hundred grand a month from webcam and i just thought you know i can't train for fights and deal with all these women i gotta make a choice
You gotta make a choice. Hey. You gotta make a choice. Was it a hard choice? You know, it is a hard choice.
yeah because because i love fighting and i loved it with all my being but i knew that if i was still fighting i literally couldn't run my business the same you can't you can't be servicing that many chicks
and keeping a happy vibe and stuff and training six hours a day and focusing on fighting you have to make you have to make a decision and Financially, I mean kickboxing is not boxing. I
Like I was making some money.
But even if I was getting 100K for a fight and you fight like three times a year, that's very different to 400 grand a month.
Yeah.
Andrew, Andrew, Andrew, Andrew.
You know, us normal guys, normal guys like me and Conor, we can't get girls to shut the fuck up.
webcam how do you accomplish that yeah well that's a very good question that's a very good question and and it's a long detailed explanation but I mean I'll just tell you the story of how I even ended up there because I didn't know I wasn't ever like a webcam guy before I started making money from webcam I didn't know webcam was a thing
I was never the dude who was like sitting there watching chicks. I was never that dude. I really didn't know it even existed. I just I
I, uh, long story short, this is about six years ago. I ran out of money and I needed money fast. I agreed to buy some property and, uh,
I didn't have the cash and all this shit. So I was literally sitting to my brother saying, I'm broke as a joke. How are we going to get some money?
And, uh,
I had like 10 grand and I needed like 30. So I went to the casino and,
trying to pull off a James Bond.
Lost it all. I did that shit once. I only needed two grand for rent when I was right out of college, and I had 500.
And I drove down to Atlantic City.
I made it. You're better than me, man. You're better than me. I was watching that roulette wheel spin like you mother. I just lost fucking, I lost like seven grand and I had three grand left.
I put it all on zero like some hope dream bullshit and so I lost all the money so I
Anyway, I'm...
I was sitting there thinking, okay, I need to make money today. How can I make money?
And I was literally, it was a conscious decision. I was literally sitting in my room with a piece of paper and a pen.
Saying, how can I generate money from the sky? I need to do something. My next fight was like three months away and I needed cash.
and
I started I started I started googling like how money is made how money works federal reserve all this guy there's just I was just looking up all this stuff and then I
I started writing down the assets I had. Like I had a nice car.
I didn't own my apartment. I was renting. And then, um,
One of the assets ended up writing down was all these chicks because when I've been flying around the world fighting and
after every time I want to fight you fucking ring girls like it's just how it goes. So I had a girlfriend here a girlfriend here a girlfriend here girlfriend here. So saying to Tristan maybe I should start a strip club but obviously takes money I ain't gone and all this stuff. So I was looking into it and then I
which is Googling things up and stumbled across this webcam website and I thought that's what I'm gonna do I'm gonna get all my girlfriends to fly here and put them all on webcam and
So literally I was broke. When you're broke, you come up with crazy ideas. So I'm crazy idea. I flew up a flight for five chicks. They all know, none of them knew about each other. They all turned up. I sat them all down and was like, okay, look,
I love you all we're gonna do webcam all down
Well, no. Like, they were all like, who the fuck's this bitch? What the fuck is this? I was like, what's this? You told me you love me. Who's this girl? Who's out of French girl, Ukrainian girl, all these girls. I was like, look, okay, it is what it is.
We're about to get rigged. So like,
Three left, two stayed.
And that was the beginning. That was about five years ago.
um two stayed one of them still with me now one of them's quit but and and you know me and these two we started making money we ended up just like all living together in this apartment
I had two chicks and within a year I went from broke as a joke to pushing a nice car and living with my two girlfriends, etc. And it just kept growing and growing and growing. And I got to a point where I was stupidly big.
At one point, I had 75 girls working for me, bro.
Get the fuck out of here. Wait a minute. Okay. I don't know if I understand the business model, Andrew. Like, why can't these chicks just do this shit on their own? Why can't they just go? Can't they just sign up for one of these sites?
Just get the, start popping that thing? Well, they can. But this is the interesting thing about females, and I don't want to come across as a sexist. I'm a realist. If you're a realist, you're going to sometimes sound a little bit sexist. So this is how it is.
But women don't have that entrepreneurial drive like a man.
If a woman can make money online, she wants to work one day a week so she can pay her bills and then piss her off and then have an easy life. She doesn't want to sit there and grind out
to buy a Ferrari.
just care
Like women in general are lazy without the male guidance.
And on top of that,
The psychology of it is that if a woman's doing I'm telling you now every single chick on cam as a man involved and
everyone because if a single girl's doing that they kind of feel bad about themselves but if they're doing that and they're doing it with their man so they're like i ain't a hoe because there's a huge psychological aspect to it where they just feel much more but i'm not a hoe
Yeah, like, yeah, I'm on webcam. I'm talking to all these dudes, but it's me and my man as a team. So no one can say shit to me because I love him and we're da da da da da.
And that's kind of how it works. So it's just the same as any other business involving women. You know, they could do it by themselves, but they're not.
They're not attuned to be that entrepreneurial without the male instinct behind them.
So like you have them sign up for like these services already exist and you just manage them kind of?
Yeah, so how it started was I had these two girls. They're working on this website. I learned the hard way. It's not easy to...
to
It's not easy. In fact, a few years ago it was easier, but now there's a lot of internet connection, that kind of thing in like in South America and Vietnam and Internet starting to take over there and as much of girls who do shit for cheap. But um,
yeah i'd manage them and i'd train them and i teach them what to do and i'd provide them with the equipment and the lighting and a place to stay and you know motivate them because it's a hard job man it sounds like easy money but it's not because no it sounds like a nightmare bro like i did promoting for uh for a club before in new york for a little while a little while and it's just getting girls to come to the club that was my only job and like that was freaking difficult so to get her to sit in a room and twerk for hours yeah sounds like absolutely because they've got to be it's
You gotta be full time happy.
Like none of these guys want to spend time with a miserable chick. They've got miserable wives already.
They want to sit there. They want to sit there with a happy girl. So you got to tell her you got to be happy eight hours a day. So a lot of the job is just from my end, it's just being positive and just keeping them motivated and inspiring them and saying, look, you didn't make any money today, but,
it's because this football game was on, making up some bullshit reasons they don't get insecure and all this, and just convincing them to stay online.
That's kind of how it worked for a while. Then I tried to get all professional with it, which was a mistake. I tried to get like,
like try and run it like a proper business.
- Oh yeah, W2s and shit, you know what I'm saying? - Yeah. - And motherfuckers clocking in.
- I kinda got like that, I got to the point where,
I was like, okay, we're going to pay them a higher percentage. I'll get a management structure. And it's just going to be about a job. It's not going to be about being in love with me.
And that didn't work because trying to motivate the women with money just didn't work. It's better when I had the few girls who loved me and we were a happy family. So you're like a digital pimp. That's exactly what it is. You're like iceberg slim or some shit. You're like a digital pimp. Well, that's exactly what it was, yeah. And I got to a point where, and it kind of happened on accident, and this is how I ended up selling my course, but I got to a point where,
I had so many girls around me that when I'd meet a beautiful girl, I was always nice. I was always respectful. I was never a rude guy, but,
I was very solid in my frame. I was like, look,
"You're gonna come live with me, we're gonna do this job, "and we're gonna get rich." I don't wanna do that, okay, bye. Because I was busy.
I was always that guy. I was like, all right, bye. And then I ended up... She's working on the camera. She can't even go on a date with you. That's what you're at with it, man. Wait, you're just... Fuck that thing.
Yeah, I'd meet new girls and we'd date and everything. They wouldn't know anything about the job and then we'd be together a while and I'd say, okay, look, you can stop doing that. You can come do this. And if they said no, I'll just, I'd just move on to other things. And then I kind of. Andrew, Andrew, Andrew, Andrew, Andrew. As a mere mortal, as a normal ass guy, you know what I'm saying? You know, I've had my fair share of relationship problems. All right.
going through something now. How are you getting human beings
to just comply.
to this is it sounds normal to you andrew but kind of does this sound normal to you like like his ability to make this happen this sound normally yeah man i do this too i don't know you're kind of missing the boat here bray no i'm just kidding this sounds absolutely insane man like is it just because you're going through sheer numbers like what is the percentage
of like you meeting a girl and then them being down to do this crazy shit okay well this is and this is the thing I teach in my in my PhD course so what I learned
through my career is that
every human being male and female we all we all
We like attention. People like attention. So what I learned is the biggest mistake men make in general is arguing with a woman. Because if you're arguing with her, that's attention.
it doesn't matter if it's negative attention it's attention so I go to a point where I was so busy all I did was manage my attention so I was a nice guy I was super nice we'd go out they jump in the nice car we go for meals that it we'd sleep together whatever whatever and I'd say look
Let's,
"Fuck this job, I'm tired of that. "You can come move in with me, we're gonna do this."
blah blah blah blah blah and if they said no I was never trying to convince them I was like all right cool bye
and not nine oh nine a horrible all right cool by way just enough you're talking about me getting girls to do shit you know girls doing backflips I don't know I don't know if that's quite to the level that um man but that was cool too unfortunately I wish the listeners knew it just happened but they have no idea I
But yeah, I was just very much like, look, this is the life. It's just having a solid frame. This is the life I live and this is who I am. And this is what I want to be. And we can be a team. We can make more money and we can spend every day together. But.
this is how it's going to be and some say yes some say no
and it was just it was just being uncompromising and just not giving my attention away to girls who were like i had it all the time girls say look
You have all these girls that work for you. I like you for who you are. We can just be a couple and all this shit. And I was just like, look, I've got enough relationship. I don't need any more of that. So is there any times where like you like completely cut it off? You're like bi and then they come crawling back because they end up doing it.
Oh, really?
So that, wow.
well this is the thing this is the thing about females I learned is that especially if they're hot they don't get ignored right who ignores a hot chick
Yeah, no one. No one. Nobody. And this is what I teach in my course as well. It's about putting value on your attention. I'm not teaching people to be a horrible person or a bad guy, but like some of the people who come to me for coaching, they're like, "Oh, my girlfriend, she's hanging around with all these dudes and stuff." I'm like, "Stop talking to her." I'm like, "What do you mean?" I was like, "What do you mean?
Like just, you know, she ain't acting the way you want her to act, so why is she getting your attention for her? Just cut your, that's the only weapon we have is men.
You can't, that's the only thing we have is our attention. It's very simple. We give our attention to get sex and they give the sex to get the attention back. That's how it works. If they're getting the attention and they're not complying, what are they going to comply for?
so I was just that guy I was just like look this is the life I live this is what I do
You could be very good at it. We'll be a great team. I'll take care of you.
are you interested let's go do it and they were like oh I don't really want to because the XYZ and I said okay that's cool but
I'm going to Tokyo tomorrow and I'm bringing three girls with me who are going to be on cam and we're going to go chill in Tokyo. You want to stay here and be a waitress, do that then.
It was just very much like coming in awe. So it was kind of just, and it kind of was all just born from needing money. It wasn't being ruthless. I just needed to get paid.
today you heard but hey look i'm headed out to book arrest all right you want to twerk on the camera with me and we get some of this money get some of this paper you heard rob with the winners the label the losers or you stay in your dumb ass town
- Yeah, exactly, you gotta learn all the rhymes. You know, I'll take you from the ghetto streets to the hotel suites.
that's kind of how that's kind of how it was man but I know it sounds I guess when I say it back it sounds a little bit crazy but
That's basically what it was. And to be honest with you, my first girl,
Of the five girls who came, the first girl who's still with me now, six years later, she's Slovakian.
She helped a lot because she was cool as a cucumber. Like she understood that. Bottom bitch. Yeah, she was cool as a cucumber. She convinced loads of girls herself.
They were like, "I don't know." I'd be like, "Well, talk to her. She does it." And she'd be like, "Yeah, I'm there." I think that was like a regular pimp. Like, you know, he had chicks on the corner and shit, you know. And his name was Saucy.
I never knew his real name. His name was Saucy. And Saucy's in prison now.
not for pimping, but for stabbing something. - He sounds like a great guy. - Yeah, no, I mean, it was a misunderstanding. It was a miscarriage of justice.
But yeah, Soxy had a bottom bitch too.
It seems a running theme. - Yeah, it's a huge part of it, because if a girl says, "Oh, I'm not sure, what about this, what about that?" I say, "Look, don't ask me, talk to this girl."
And if the girl, and she's pretty, and she's like, look, I didn't really know what Andrew was saying, but then I tried it. Now I make fucking 20, 30 grand a month.
I get to travel the world. It's fun. Then the girl's like, okay,
Well, you know, and so a lot of it a lot of it is female on female recruitment That's kind of how it gets once you get to a certain point
You're just the authoritarian figure at the top.
But yeah, I mean, it was never like 1% aggressive or violent or coercive. It's all these stereotypes about getting girls to work for you. You can't force a girl to do anything. You can't force a woman to do anything long term. They have to want to do it.
You know, so it's got to be a whole big positive.
environment it's gotta be like oh we've all finished work here's a bottle of vodka
we're all gonna get drunk takes gonna fuck us all like it's gotta be it's got this so that's kind of how it was man and then um but I got I got too big and and I I ended up trying to motivate the girls with money instead of attention because I had too many girls and my margin really reduced I mean at one point when I had 75 girls I had like 15 properties I was driving in between them all
Thank you.
Now I'm back down to about five girls, my special forces. Oh, you still do the webcam shit? I still do it, man.
Because now these girls have been doing it for so long now, I don't have to do much now. They know the game.
You know, they just log in each day and you know, that's it. So I've still got about five girls who work for me and and the money in the game. It's there's a lot of money in this business. Like, how do you split it up? How do you split? What's the payment? Do they get like 50 50? Or is there you managing all the money and giving them a stipend or what's good?
Yeah.
It's my money, all of it.
So, um... Yo, I fucking love this.
But women aren't motivated by money. Anyone listen?
I don't want to do this for a living, anyone listening.
good story and it's funny exactly it's a good one listening anyone in my life all right story from an entrepreneur who took a different route all right this is not some shit Connor or I are trying to do we already got million-dollar businesses we're very happy
All right, we're very happy.
Satisfied.
This is just fun. Okay, guys. All right, everyone. Well, yeah. All right, mom.
Chill out.
I'd be easy.
Yeah, absolutely. I mean, you know the crazy thing about it is like I
i've had some people say a lot of bad about it but when because they imagine it is like prostitution or they imagine it's like me kind of like tricking like prostitution is it not yeah well i mean you know like mountains but we're not right yeah i mean but they imagine there's there's this when i talk about it there's this impression that somehow
tricking these girls and like it's a big trick yeah it's zero percent like that it's it's it's zero percent like that at all I mean these these chicks are completely doing it by their own free will they're free to come and go and they're having a good time and they're traveling the world they're making more money than they've ever made and everyone's smiling like it's zero percent negative in any form it never has been I've never had a girl like I'm
trying to turn on me or cause me problems or nothing like it's just it's just a big happy vibe that's kind of how it always was and Andrew Andrew my fault the percentage he says all your money and how did they get how they get paid or if you just give them a stipend or you just handle all their bills or or women aren't motivated by money
this is the thing you have to understand you learn this very quickly is that money doesn't motivate females because if you're a beautiful woman and your money motivated you can just go be a sugar you can be gold digger you can go to Dubai get some dude's boat yeah but like there's a lot of women who are motivated by that right you say like you see that's I'm using basketball wise you know yeah yeah exactly so if you're like a gold digging chick then you're money motivated but the girls who work for me they didn't work for me for money they work for me because they love me and they want to spend time with me so they're motivated by attention so I
I all the money's mine I'll give them a little bit maybe like 10% or something so they can do their nails and hair without annoying me I take care of all the bills but that's that's basically it yeah I just manage all the money honestly I know like softies not the only pimp like legit I knew right this is exactly how they run it yeah you have to be in control you have to be in control of all the money because that's the authoritarian aspect of it you know so like even some of the girls who work with me for five or six years they've got apartments now I mean like my top girl she'll make
$40,000 a month and she doesn't see any bit but you handle all the bills and you know she's taken care of and she wanted an apartment so we bought one 50/50 her name's on some property and all that so basically I do anything she want I want this or she'll get to go anytime I go somewhere she can come with me so she got a comfortable life but she doesn't actually give a shit about the dollars in the bank she just yeah she just wants to comfort and she gets it she doesn't have to work a fucking boring ass job yeah
that's right that's basically that's basically how I'll start that's basically how it worked out and
- Yeah, I mean, you're kind of-- - Andrew, how do you get, like most girls wouldn't want, they did it, like, you know, like Connors told me this, that like, 'cause Connors, you know what I'm saying, single and shit, you know. So when girls send them pics, remember you was telling me that they don't be wanting to even show their face and like pics they send you. - Yeah. - How do you get like a girl to like,
You know what I'm saying? Just show the world, our whole
You know, she can't never get a regular job after that man. You know, it really had no future outside of fucking twerking after that shit, right? Well, it's actually much easier with attractive girls because attractive girls are far less self-conscious. So like if you find a real beautiful girl, I mean, I used to just say things that were true. I
I say, look, this girl's on Instagram, 99% naked for free. They're going to do the last 1% and be rich. Like, what's the difference here, really? You know, like, is it that big a difference? And then if they try it, they only get compliments. Like, it's not like they got guys on there giving them a hard time. All they do is get a bunch of men telling them how beautiful they are and sending them thousands of dollars. And then they're like, okay, well, this is better than Instagram likes. I mean, this is all chicks love is Instagram likes. Here, I got money in the bank and compliments.
or do you have to be like you know a fucking log in and twerk they uh when I had the big business like I had I'd always be in the studio and log them all and all that kind of stuff but now I've got girls who've been working for years so they just do their own thing they know exactly what to do they just do their own thing they don't want to just do it on your own no
Because then it can't be with me. Ah, okay, okay. So that brings us back to a bigger point. The average guy listening to this, you know, Conor's fan base,
they they you're playing because they really like girls right connor i think so
Yeah, I think so. Most of them. I see your emails. Most of them do.
how do you get these girls to fall in love with you? Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, you know, I mean, you're charming and attractive, right? But lots of guys are, right? Like, so whatever.
No homo, you know what I'm saying?
and no and you know but like you know like you know being like it's it's it's a combination of things and and like i i am genuinely happy to say like my girl my main girl she's been on cam for five years i'm zero percent jealous about cam i don't give a shit some people have seen her tips so well i get to play with them no one else does so um so it doesn't bother me at all from that perspective but i don't know like i teach a lot of this in in in my course about how i did of course
I don't wanna sound like cliche with it, but if you've got a vision and you're strong with who you are as a person, and I find that women love the idea of emotionally affecting you. 'Cause I'll tell you what, like when I was fighting,
I would always have arguments with my girl at two days before a fight and I'd be like why do they kick off before a fight? It's because they know I'm most susceptible to being upset by their bullshit when I'm in the high-stress environment of a fight coming up. So women like the idea of being able to emotionally affect you. So I kind of taught myself to just be unaffectable. Like you act like a fool. I just want you to reply. I won't even argue.
It's just stop replying just where I'm by and and and you couple that with abundance and all of a sudden women don't like to lose They're like, oh, I act like a dickhead. He stops replying. He's with that chick and she's hot and then it becomes a competition between the girls and all of a sudden
don't I don't think I did that much really besides just stay stay focused on my business and my money I'm
and and and they kind of just thought I better but if I behave myself Andrew gives me lots of attention and if I don't he does this is the biggest mistake man this is the biggest mistake man make I have all the time guys come to me and say oh you know I'm really busy working and then I'm arguing with my girl and I say yeah because when you're busy working you don't text her because you're busy and do a lot of guys think and I always thought this is backwards they think oh I gotta ignore the girl since you're like anymore or I gotta like nag or like you know like you're saying it's the opposite absolutely I
got a reward if they if they're acting good and acting nice to you you need to reward him with lots of attention but if they're acting like a fool you got to do the absolute opposite and cut it off most guys do it the wrong way around
She's fine today. I'm busy. I'm with my boys. I ain't gonna text her. But if she starts kicking off, they're gonna get on their phone in the club going, oh, fuck you. And they wonder why she acts like an idiot. It's the only time you text her. Ah, so you're reinforcing the negative behavior. Absolutely. Absolutely. And it's a mistake most guys make. I do the complete opposite. If she's acting good, I'll take time out of my day and text all the time. But the second she acts a fool, I don't even say fuck you. I just stop replying.
three days three days later she's a boy where you been I'm not wasting my time talking to you and you're gonna act that way and then which pool you give you when you're just cool then you get her a lot of attention you expect throughout the day hey baby wait absolutely oh yeah so it enforces them to go that that's how I get attention from andro I got good and that's that's the basis of what it all was you know that plus abundance I mean I think a lot of people were always confused how I managed to share so many girls without like yeah they were
Jealousy is always going to be there, but how I managed to share so many girls, but it's pretty, it's a pretty similar process, man. It wasn't really that difficult. I was just like, look, this is the life I live. This is who I, this is what I do. It doesn't mean I don't love you because I fuck her.
it's not mutually exclusive and you're honest about the whole shit like well yeah I mean I was never told I would never go on a date and sit with a brand new girl and say hey you're one of 50 I would never be like that but like I was I was still very nice and charming and stuff and they'd kind of find out they're kind of working out on their own a little bit this girl who's that girl and I was just I just kind of eased them in I never really denied it I never really confirmed that I was just like don't worry about it she's cool guys fuck up
where they are when they start the light side well the problem with lying is the problem with lying is that's cowardly I think that's that's the main problem girls don't have a problem with what you do as much as when you lie you look like a pussy no I don't know her I don't know her I didn't do it but when she's like who's this girl ah fucked her well yeah she's a girl and she works for me I sleep with her so look oh fuck you then all right bye
And then they go, fine, bye. And they walk out and then they're waiting for you to text them and you don't.
then you know they have a little breakdown about it then they start trying to start they start texting you trying to get an argument out you you did this you did that you did this is like look this is the life I live I like you very much I've nothing bad to say about you I'd love for you to come back but if you don't want to it's up to you that's interesting man at least you being honest right like that that's that's the beauty of it it's like it's honest in that way like the girl is
is free to make our own decision. It's like that is you know, even though some people may like,
there might be somebody who might not approve of your lifestyle, but if you're honest about it and you're an adult and everyone's, it's, it's,
Consents to this did it to being involved me then you know, you can't judge people for like how they want to live as long as they're like not manipulating.
Oh, that's what I was just going to say, man. That's what I feel like women prefer authenticity over everything. Your story, your mindset kind of sounds really similar to, do you know who Justin Wayne is? I've heard the name. I certainly heard the name. Yeah. So Brandon, you know who Justin Wayne is, but like- Yeah, he's on the podcast, right? He was on the podcast. He's a very popular pickup artist and essentially he did the same thing. He has an abundance of girls that are willing to like share him as well. And his whole thing is just being completely authentic right from the start.
And it seems so I feel like the more authentic you are the more the more shit you can get away with it Absolutely and also I mean with me because because women want to feel special you see So what I had to do is I had to change their perception of what special is because most in traditional relationships It's sexual exclusivity that proves that person special
like you're special because I only have sex with you so what I had to do is change our understanding that look if you look through history every king every Sultan every night he had he had a bunch of wives a bunch of mistresses this is this is normal human nature you can tell me I'm weird but there's not a single alpha male in history you didn't have more than one chick so am I am I gay right because I actually want like I sound I what I rather just be with one
Like I've dated multiple girls. It sounds like a fucking nightmare, man. What you trying to say? I'm gay, man. No, no, no, no. Absolutely not. This is just the line I use. I just said, look, it's not that abnormal a behavior. Because I used to have girls come to me and say, that's crazy. And I say, is it that crazy? No.
Like is it that crazy really if you look at humans from a not a societal standpoint from a purely animal standpoint?
Is it that crazy? I said, you know, women have never had multiple men because there's paternity involved.
And there's other things. But in history, every man had loads of chicks. I was like, it's not that crazy. And they're like, well, how do I know you care about me?
Their problem, the girls never had a problem with sleeping with other girls. Their problem was, how do I know I'm special? I'm not just one of a bunch of idiots.
That was the issue. So they would they would prove that they love me through sexual exclusivity and I'd have to prove I love them other ways.
Okay, so listen, Andrew, let me ask you a question. Most of the guys listening to this, man, they ain't gonna be super digital pimps. Like, like, there's not even in their frame, right? These motherfuckers just trying to get a girl, what if they trying to get a girlfriend, or they're like, just a fucking queer like me, and they just want a girlfriend? What's some of the steps they can take? They just want like, what people want shit? What's kind of steps they can take?
make this happy or or they be yeah or they in a relationship or some shit you know well I think the biggest thing I said like I cover in the course is you you've got it's every every relationship especially between men and women is based on respect I've said this loads of times women don't want to sleep with guys they like they want to sleep with guys they respect this this is the truth if a woman doesn't respect you she doesn't want to have sex with you you see all the time with a woman who's like I love him
I like him.
But...
And it's just because they lose that respect. So if you don't risk, how's a woman going to respect you if you don't respect yourself?
A lot of these guys, they sacrifice such huge parts of their personality to try and appease the girl. And that doesn't mean they're bad guys. It means they're nice guys and they're trying to do the nice thing. But the chick just starts to think, okay, well, I got him to stop doing that. I got him to do this. And then they just try and push and push for more. And I kind of think like if you're just yourself and I, when I say this, I'm telling you now, I never nag a girl. I'm never rude to a girl. I'm not disrespectful. I'm none of those things. I'm the nicest. No girl can say a bad thing about me.
But I've never been the guy who's gonna give up on something. All you do is train. I want to go out. Yeah, well, I'll fight come up. Yeah, that's what it is. It was me first.
women prefer that they don't want to be put first because that if you're teaching them
that you don't receive you don't respect yourself then why are they gonna respect you so I think a lot of it's just bound to I know it sounds cliche about just being yourself keeping true to your mission you know like it's it's basic things you know like I'm going here today you come in I don't like that place all right bye
like just just being who you are and it doesn't mean you have to be horrible in any way but they they're attracted to people who are just very direct with their mission and I think a lot of guys make this mistake they get a girl and the girl wants to do XYZ or whatever whatever and if you the problem is if you teach if you teach her that you don't come first then you come last there's only two people so you're a teacher that you come last how's that gonna ever benefit you in the long run but what about like compromise and shit like that you know saying yeah I mean absolutely it depends on the certain
say I was completely ironclad like you know but just just in general I was just very I
a certain I think fighting helped with that because fighting is not the kind of thing you can have to Yeah, you gotta be all like you try and distract me from I'm not to fight this dude the psycho from Russia
and you're complaining about going to a restaurant, shut up.
know like I was always like no I've got something happening and I'm focused not kind of my business like real like yo listen and we all we all we we had war over here people depending on me I got 15 employees like live and on who's likely it depends on my productivity I'm saying I got a this is what it exactly exactly right and I think they find that attractive but I think the biggest mistake men because I have the course the PhD course where I teach from the ground how to get girls notes we'll have links in the show notes yeah but a lot of
oh this happened that happened that happened I'm like look you you can be perfectly I completely disagree with most pickup artists they say you need to neg girls on this shit complete bullshit I'm the nicest guy in the world but I just refused to bend and change who I am because they told me to
I refuse you know that's it if they want to obviously I'll compromise they want to change the fucking curtains whatever yeah that's how I think it's like some bullshit like that I don't give a fuck and I kind of look at it like like I'm almost like I'm saving my bullets like whatever yeah like if I don't really care right now all right whatever you saying but it's like that way when I say some shit that I'm like adamant about it's taken seriously I'll completely
you man okay but there's there's just a whole bunch of dudes i think that just don't respect themselves enough and they and they get a chick and they're like oh she's the be all and end all and and and you know
I mean, I love, there's nothing wrong with loving a chick. I love my girl who I've been with six years. I absolutely do love her. I adore her with all my heart, but if she fucks with me too tough.
I'm still gonna ignore us that's just who I am as a person that's just who I am as a guy this is who I am You know, it doesn't mean I don't love her. It just means like if you're gonna talk to me that way. I'm not gonna reply to you
that's just how it is and and she knows I respect my she says it to me all the time she's like I know you love me and I love you but
I don't know, when I make you mad, you're just crazy. Yeah, I'll just fly to Tokyo and don't talk to you for two weeks. Don't make me mad.
don't make me mad then. So what are some of the rules you got you got any like rules or some like go to and I go to shit like every guy should be following so it's respect yourself you know value your attention what are some of your go to rules? When you say like value your attention that's perfect you but you a lot of guys what they do is they destroy the value of their own attention so like gold gold is only valuable because it's rare.
So if you're throwing your attention around everywhere, then what value is it gone?
chicks can see this and it's not just to one chick it's to all chicks so if I if I'm thirsty for a whole bunch of girls that's why the girls it's not that the girls jealous of the other girls she's like well he just he just gives his attention to all these chicks what is it doesn't have any value and
So like if I'm, even if I'm talking to a girl now, even to this day, if I'm talking to a girl and she starts,
being rude or starts not replying I just won't talk to her anymore.
I'll just stop replying. And then that's when they'll start liking my Instagram pictures. When I stop messaging them. Because they're like, oh wait, this is the first dude, I gave him a little bit of shit and he just stopped replying to me.
Because then now my attention has more value than the other guy who's blowing up her inbox. She wants because now mine's hard to get. You don't put a value on your own attention and you haven't got a weapon to try and get the girl in the first place. So, and that comes down to once again, respecting yourself and sticking by your guns. I have loads of guys coming to me going, oh, we all know what happens if you text the girl over and over and over again. She ignores you.
Everyone knows it, but they still do it. You're proving that even if she treats you like garbage, you'll continue to give your attention away. But it's okay to text her if she's behaving in a... Absolutely. If she's being cool. If she's being cool. Absolutely. So it's like you've got to give your attention in return for what you want. The only thing you have in the whole game. So if you're giving it away for no reason, then you haven't got any currency at all. Why is she going to treat you nicely if you're going to blow her phone up and be nice to her when she treats you like shit? Why is she going to do that?
completely I'm completely down no I'm down with that because I one point I'm gonna walk family and a marriage all this and I say to people I'm
In the Western world, you need to learn to tear through some chicks to find a good one anyway. This is the world we live in now.
like people come to me and they go all but what if I don't want to sleep with all these girls I say look if you're gonna fall in love with the first girl you sleep with you're gonna have trouble I don't know if you said it but my boy I don't want to say his name who introduced me he said hey listen if you're trying to get apples trying to find the best apples apples yeah that's your thing yeah I said I said if you want to be an expert on apples you need to you need to have a lot of apples you need to touch and feel and eat a lot of apples if you've you've seen two apples in your life and you know I love this
know nothing you sit about apples man you don't know shit about apples so if
you want to really say look I found the girl for me she's special you need to at least say well I've others I've done this I've done this this because then you then you know more and this is the world we live in now we live in the Western world where some have better morals some are better people and this is same with men there's so there's dickhead men there's dickhead chicks
So when guys go to me and go, oh, I fell in love with this girl. It's like, well, it's the first girl you've slept with in a year and a half. You fall in love with her. Okay, great. You don't even know if she's a quality woman.
Whereas if you have choices, you can sit and go, okay, this girl is nicer. This girl cares about me. This girl asked how my day was. And this other girl doesn't give a shit.
It's important. Yeah. I'm 36, man. So I'm like-- Getting old, bro. You already know. I didn't been around. Man. You know what I'm saying? But like, most of Connors fans, they--
Who knows, man? You know what I'm saying? They're younger. Conor's younger. How are you, man?
I'm 32 now.
32, yeah, I'm getting old, man. I'm an old man. Listen, but also, like, another thing is, like, God's got to...
work on yourself man like you gotta be like um
None of this shit's gonna work if you a fucking loser.
Yeah. Right. Like you got you got to be a fucking
I always tell guys, man, like, think about the girl that you really want, you know, or the girls you really want. Like, kind of...
whatever it is, one girl, bunch of girls, whatever it is, what kind of person they are, what they are, like really envisioning.
Right?
what they look like, how they dress, maybe what they do for a living, whatever it is.
and then start thinking like, yo, what kind of dude you got to be to deserve that shit, right? To deserve to have a girl like that. You can't trick her into that. You got to actually be the kind of motherfucker that she wants to be with, you know, like,
You know, that's absolutely. That's absolutely true. Like a lot of these guys are like, Oh, I see, look, I get all the time. Dudes emailing me and going all this chick, that chick. I'm like, bro, if you're a nobody, would you date you?
Like women have got choices, man. They've got options and women are born with value, but men have to create our values.
you have to create it you weren't born ripped as a motherfucker yeah man this just corner gentleman I can see what his pants mass face he was born lucky but we have to we have to create our value we have to create our own value so a lot of that is once again down to how much you respect yourself I always wanted the most beautiful women in the world so I knew I need to have a nice-ass car and be as beasts and be a champion or be somebody
There's a whole bunch of dudes out there who don't want to be a somebody. And then they complain that girls don't care about them. It's like, well, I said this to one guy. He got really upset. He actually blocked me on WhatsApp. But I'm...
- I said, if you're an average ass dude,
then the chick you're with will sleep with average ass dudes.
And that means that the guy who works at Pizza Hut's your competition,
And you all go through life worrying about everybody. You gotta worry about everybody, man. Everybody. Losers, you know what I'm saying, drug addicts. Yeah, and then you're like, no wonder you're worried about her cheating. Because, you know, like, anybody's fair game then. But if you're unique and you're special and you've got some things going for you, then you'll be surprised how loyal girls are. I think most guys are, like, afraid to, like,
ignore their chick for a few days they think she's gonna run off but if you're they ain't gonna they ain't gonna replace a G in a couple days but it's rare ain't going nowhere yo man it's like it's like here's the thing man if you really work on yourself like become like like let's take Connor for example you know yeah he was born beautiful right but he also like built his body up you know saying he became he worked hard to become famous
you know saying he's got like you know more money than he can spin right like now he's like really set himself apart how many guys are like that no how many this way more hot girls than there are guys like like Connor or just any guy who's like successful attractive in shape and confident like there's way more hot girls than our guys like that absolutely that's and this is the thing like a lot of guys complain about the sexual market but no you're completely right the sexual marketplace if you're a high-value man there's 20% of the guys
Thank you.
This is the reality. So if you put yourself in the top 20% life's great.
Like it really and and and the great thing about being a man is it's all you can forge yourself purely a hard work
Like obviously people are born with some genetic gifts, whatever.
But you can basically forge yourself out of absolutely hard work.
so you're gonna sit there and complain all women this women are hyper gamers women all that bullshit I'm like we'll just make yourself a higher value yeah a bunch of people are upset I'm like you need to get up there and get motivated if you really want it you have to go and get it that's the reality of the world so
And you're completely right about women.
If you're a chick,
What kind of guy do you want to be? And women, man, women are happy. Look at R. Kelly. You know, I'm okay. Not R. Kelly. That's a bad example. You just got busted.
But look at all these, look at Chris Brown, whatever. Women are happy to share a high value male. They know, they kind of know deep down what's kind of going on. They, you know, like if I said to you, do you want a Lamborghini three days a week, or do you want a bicycle every day?
Like you know, they're happy to kind of share. They know that they know the game. So it is what it is. You just gotta be uncompromising with it and just I make this very clear to everyone I talk to I am super nice to girls. I am 0% that Nagam be rude to them. I'm a super I'm a nice guy hanging out. Look at Dan Bilzerian. You think he's rude to anybody? He's like no, come let's have fun. Let's do this. That he's a nice guy. But if you get fresh to him, you think he's flying you out again? No.
It's just how it is. I'm a perfectly nice man, but
You're gonna give me too much attitude. He doesn't want to talk to you. Yeah, yeah. So what about your girls and other guys, man? You cool with that? You don't give a fuck or what? You know what I'm saying? They gotta be...
Zero not a single one of my women even talks to another guy. Yeah, you don't even like them even be friends with other guy zero friends zero Whatsapp content zero Explain that so a lot of guys ask how I achieve this this is a problem a lot of dudes have and I just it's the same as everything else I just say look this is my minimum standard
I wouldn't I wouldn't say this to a girl I just got on a date with but if I get with a girl it's been with her a few months I'll be like look
We're together.
There's not a single guy on earth who knows more than me. You want to talk to a man you talk to me What is what does he have to say to you that I can't so what is so interesting? And what's he gonna say to you and she goes? Oh, we're just friends and I say okay you see him as a friend but 100% he wants more now and even if you're not gonna let him get more and
It's I'll give you an example. I have a Lamborghini. Am I gonna let someone try and break into my Lambo just because it has good locks? No Or stay or like sit on it when you're gone
Lamborghini and kick it with your Lamborghini is it? Completely right. So it's mine. So I'm like even if you have no intent even if you don't see in that way, I
even if the locks on my lamborghini are flawless am i going to let someone continually try and break in before i come along and say that's that's not yours stay away from that so it's not about being jealous it's about being territorial and this is not unusual people pretend in the modern world it's unusual in the 1960s and 70s and 80s ain't too long ago were chicks rolling with a bunch of dudes when they were married of course they weren't
these guys are after one thing so I'd say look these guys are after one thing from you even if you don't see them that way that's perfectly fine but I'm not gonna be with the girls rolling a bunch of dudes but they will really they will really differentiate it they will really fucking hold on to that like are they are they being stupid are they being stupid or did he think
the guys are already think that we're stupid and which one is worse? Well okay so the friendship thing is super interesting because the friendship thing satisfies what they want which is unlimited attention for no reason.
That's what women like so that's what they're getting by and that's why women women are complicit they sit and go Oh, we're just friends pretending. They don't know
But they know they're getting the attention though. They're getting attention, even if they're not without, some, and they might really be, this is the friend, right? They, in their mind, but it's like, they're getting attention
without having to do anything, right?
especially if you like you're a boss and you're like too busy for them
right you know and they get attention from this other dude you know I'm saying and uh but it's like yeah exactly right and this is why when I say like when people always ask me how did you get these hot girls who don't talk down a man it's like because within a couple months of the relationship I said look I'm not comfortable going out with the girls texting a bunch of guys no like oh well I want he's made my friend for 10 years it's okay cool keep him as a friend yeah I'm not going out with a girl who text me so
it was just my minimum standard I was just like knows you were it's you or me it's him or me and when I'd say this I had a couple girls who I lost a couple girls would like oh fuck you but then leave but I used to say this to my brother all the time if I'd say to a girl choose between me and this guy and she chooses to talk to the other guy how long is it till she cheats on me any like in the long term how am I gonna win that battle anyway so to me I'm saving myself time if I'm gonna sit there with a girl I've been with her three months
and she's decided to defy my word to text this dude.
well that's gonna end one way or another I was gonna end one way in my mind it's only a matter of time bro it's only a matter of time she's gonna get mad at you yep mad at you or something or you're gonna be ignoring her or something or you're gonna be busy and she's gonna get pissed and then they're gonna be fucking high or something or whatever the fuck she does with her loser friends exactly oh you know then that's it and that's why it's better for me to walk away with my honor intact and say look I can't wait man fuck it
i care about you i like you you know i want us to be together but i am not comfortable having a girl who has a bunch of men talking to her if you're my like guys who ask me for advice like a you know similar similar say i'm not like a pickup guy right but it's like
You know, like, yeah, man. I mean, like, yo, man, yo. She's keeping that pressure for a fucking reason. And chess, like, sometimes I look at a position like that as a losing position. You're in a losing position. She's talking to these other dudes. You're in a losing position. So if the only move on the board is a risky move,
And you...
might lose she might she might walk off we're gonna lose anyway
So it doesn't matter if you lose, you might as well take the risk and at least have a chance of winning.
You know, like so. Yeah, because you're going to lose like if those other guys are more, more important than you, you know, you probably already lost. Exactly right. So I would rather sit there with a girl at dinner and say, look.
I have great plans for us. I want us to be together. I really like you. I am not, I'm not jealous. I'm just territorial. I'm not comfortable having a woman with other men blowing up her phone. You either can stop talking to those guys. We can continue. You need to ask something. You need to know something about manhood. Whatever you want to know, you can talk to me. No guy, no guy's texting. No guy, no guy is just texting some girl that he doesn't want to fuck. Exactly. This is the point. We all know. We know what's going on anyway. And the girl always plays ignorant. Like, oh, I've known him since school.
that's gonna stop him getting a hard-on because you went to school together? You know what I'm saying? And then when she gets, and she might not have no intention.
But she's saying that like in a different mental state.
But when you get mad, when she gets mad at you, and she's fucking high or drunk and horny, and he's there, you know what I'm saying? That's what he's waiting for. No matter what the fuck she says to you, he's waiting, man. There's a good book called The...
the winter effect and they talked about
the way like a lot of in a primate world like you know the alpha fucking gorilla he's going around he's getting all this this gorilla monkey right every he's looking all these monkey bitches right
And then,
And but there's like the beta, the beta gorillas, man, they just, they be hanging out, just waiting. They be hanging out with the monkey bitches, man, like cleaning these hoes and shit. You know, like picking bugs off them and shit, man, finding them some fruits. And then when the fucking gangster ass monkey,
Comes around, "Get the fuck out of here, little nigga." And then he gets his motherfucker, then he's out.
He's back on his guerrilla shit. -Yeah. -Every once in a while.
Every once in a while,
who got a little bit, that he gets some. And it's like the strategy. Because they were talking about like mating between alpha males and betas. You know what I mean? And they observed this in animal kingdom, right? That's what these motherfuckers are doing. I don't have, I mean, I got girls that I know.
But I don't have, like, female friends, like, that I just fucking hang out with. Like, me and Bella are friends, but she works. She works for me, right? She's an employee. Like, there's a girl in another room. She literally works for me.
And I don't know if we're, I don't think we're texting each other and hanging out and shit, you know what I'm saying, if she didn't work for me. And that's no disrespect to her. It's just like, you know, I'm out here doing gangsters. Well, this is the thing. And I say this to my girl. I say, look, you know, you're not having male friends because I don't have any female friends. Every woman I talk to, I'm either trying to have sex with or having sex with.
Who are these losers who have female friends? Like legit friends. Like I mean in the real way. Like the way Connor and I are friends, right?
I have girls that I know and maybe I use that term friend loosely. I know them and you know what I'm saying and I might hit them up if
Something's going on or like, you know, I want them to meet one of my one of my homies. Yes, or something like that um
or be in a workout video or some shit. But like, I'm not fucking hanging out with some fucking girl. You know what I'm saying? Kicking with some girl. What kind of fucking loser do you think I am? Those guys are losers. No answer. Well, women are not combat ready, bro. So if I'm going to be rolling with a whole bunch of chicks as friends, what's going to happen when I get jumped? What are they going to do? Yeah, man. They ain't going to do nothing.
Yeah, yeah. Are these guys losers? That's gonna be a question. You guys are hanging out with these girls, are they losers? Well, they're trying to get sex the most beta possible strategy we just discussed. That's what they're trying to do. And it's just- So the guests, they are losers. I just want you to say that out loud. Well, I'll tell you why they're losers. It's because their whole strategy is one, it's snakeish, it's snake-like. And two, it's just honest.
It's dishonest. I will talk to a girl and she's like, Oh yeah. So why'd you message me? Because you're beautiful.
Oh, boyfriend. Okay, fine. Bye.
I'm just honest with my intention. Like why am I gonna fucking sit there and go, "Oh, it's because we both like vampire diaries. Let's hang out." Fuck you out of here, man. Yo, like, it was like, it's kind of like,
Like these guys because I get messages all the time. How do I get out the friend zone? Like yo, first of all, why you got female friends? You're a fucking loser.
You know what I'm saying? Like, 'cause you a loser, that's why you in a friend zone, and that's why you a loser,
for having female friends in the first place. Like real friends, friends, friends. Like trying to be a real friend, like going over house and hanging out.
a non-sexual context but this this is what the friend zone is we what I said earlier like you give your attention to get sex she gives the sex to get attention friend zones when you give all your attention for nothing in return friend zones just the ultimate skew of the the sexual dynamic
That's all it is she's find out that she can get all of your attention and get you to buy her food and do anything you want Without giving you a lick so and then you wonder why she's not interested in you. Why would she give you more? Why would you pay more for a product in a store if you can get it all for cheap? I
Why are you gonna go in there and go, no, I wanna pay more. She doesn't have to give you shit to get your attention, so she's not interested in you. - She's being manipulative. Like she's getting that attention out of the relationship while she's going there and fucking a G.
exactly she's interested in me he's kind of being a bad person too even if he says he's not interested
Like, she knows what's up, man. Of course. And she's interested in the dude who doesn't text her back.
this is like yes he's trying to fuck the dude who's ignoring it well this is it so people always say girls like assholes and I say no they don't they like guys who just are uncompromising and and and refuse to give all their attention away they don't like jerks they just like dudes who they who have a value to their attention and that happens to be jerks a lot of the time because they just won't do whatever they're told they don't actually like the fact he's a dickhead they just like you know the fact that they say do this and they think no I'm
That's what the you know, that's what it is. So yeah, the friend zone is a bad friends I don't you can't end up there unless you consciously put yourself there. I'm very honest about being a loser and like the girls who? But I think like girls are complicit in this shit, man. I don't I don't know what to think of a girl who just keeps a bunch of guy friends I'm not I think she's a little bit manipulative. I
I don't know. Yeah, I mean, you're completely right. But this this is this is women. This is their value. They're born with value. And if you're born as a hot chick,
you can get pretty far not knowing very much. I mean, I've gone on dates with hot women and sat there and listened to them talk and I thought no one has corrected this girl in her life. She's talking to me about some bullshit and no one has sat here and told her you are wrong ever.
because she got big titties. So it's like, you ain't got to know much. You know, you can get pretty far with very little. So, yeah, and if they can build a whole bunch of orbit and guys who are obsessed with them, who are going to pay their bills and drive them around and whatever, whatever, I don't, I mean,
My view on the whole world, this is not just in the sexual dynamic, this is my whole view on the world. It's a world of strength and weakness, and strength is always going to win in the long term. So if a woman's in a dominant position, if you're going to be a weak enough person to allow yourself to be exploited,
Well, then you shouldn't be, that's your fault. I don't blame the exploiter so much. I'm like, well, you put yourself there. You're allowing yourself to be exploited. I get this all the time. People come to me and go, but Tate, now you've got some money. Aren't you worried about gold diggers? I'm like, no.
They're like, "Why?" He's like, "Because they ain't gonna get a penny unless I give it to them."
It's like being worried about charity.
Like, oh no, the charity exists. Like, unless I decide to hand them money, like, you know, unless I decide to hand them money, then they're going to get it. And then they go, well, how do you know she doesn't just like you for your money?
I said, look, if she likes me because I'm an ambitious, successful man, that's far less shallow than me liking her because she has big tits.
like who's the shallow one yeah exactly no it's like so I know it's it's a lot of people just don't understand the genuine dynamic of it if you're a hot girl of course you're gonna want a successful dude and
like why would you probably deserve that right because that's this is way to market is you know I'm saying like you know it's just the way
just ways I mean like yo yeah she's gonna want the best offer right like in marketing we talk about like what's the offer like what do you what do you what else so it's like there's a product
but then it's like what else is included you know what are the bonuses so she might like you man but if you're rich that's a bonus that's something you can ask you can add to the offer if you're if you're and if you're successful that's something you can add to the offer right you know saying if you ain't gotta worry about shit you know if you're a jeep that improves the offer you know well i i i said this i was in uh i was in russia and i was talking and you know eastern european and russian girls they're they're known as gold diggers they like money i was talking to her and she made a very
And I think he's rude and he's a horrible person, but he has some money.
I'm not I'm not gonna go out with him just for his money but if I but but if I meet a guy and he has money it's a bonus so it's the same thing if you we're all in good shape if you meet a guy with a good body but he's an arrogant asshole and you don't like him you're not gonna buy them just for his body but the guy your dream guy does have a nice body your dream guy does have money so it's just like it's just one of the criteria they find interesting and I don't blame them at all like shit if I lose the other way around that's a lot more I'd
be one of them bitches, you're saying is always traveling on Instagram.
But like, you know, saying or she says she's a model, but she ain't never in like no publications.
Right now diving off somebody's boat, man.
absolutely absolutely I think Connor's sitting here like these guys have ruined my podcast no I love it man you guys have made it amazing it's the best one yet man Connor what questions you what questions what questions you have because I know you've had some interesting I don't know if you had liberty to say honestly but you you've had some interesting things happen on uh that you share with the podcast I've had man and a lot of stuff you said has hit home
completely I'm just so interested essentially you have this abundance of girls that aren't getting jealous at all and you said it's because you frame the attention in our you frame that they're special in a different way I was just wondering exactly how you pull that off how do you make a girl feel special while you're also banging like 10 other girls I think that that's very difficult and I'm very interested to see how exactly you do that man yeah yeah so
from girl to girl because I've been doing this going on for so many years so defensive girl girl so I had one girl and she never used to care what I did but she had this big deal about me sleeping next to another girl so she was like yeah but when you sleep with them you hug them and you wake up together that because you can go fuck ten girls I don't care but please just come home
That was her thing. So every girl has a different thing. Now, that was a particularly annoying one. Because I've just finished in the club. It's 4 a.m. I just, fuck her. I'm tired. I'm drunk. I just want to go to sleep. I'm like, I'll go and call an Uber. Did you compromise on that one? I compromised. Because, yeah. Because, you know, she's letting me do whatever I want. I understand it ain't easy for her. She knows I'm out here being me.
She just had this one thing, please don't. And every once in a while I'd fall asleep. But in general, she didn't let me sleep in this other girl. I got another girl. If you came home, smell nothing late. She was happy I came home. She was happy I came home.
She's like, oh, at least you came home. She was happy I came home. That was it. So she just literally, I'm like, yeah, she know what I've just been. She was happy I came home. So I had another girl who was like, uh,
she's the only one i own property with i know it sounds stupid but it's something you can say look none of these other girls have this
you know so these little things another girl was the only one who was on my Instagram you're the only one who's on my Instagram everyone sees us as a couple who are these other chicks ain't nothing
so it's just it's just having something to reassure her it doesn't matter what it is
Just something to reassure her that she is special compared to the others. That's all it is because usually that's done with sex. I just say, look,
We've removed that. You're obviously sexually exclusive to me, but I'm me. I do what I do. It's my business. It's also who I am as a person. I'm not going to lie to you.
But...
don't worry about xyz because of you know we're together because of this or we only have this yeah this is that simple and this is the truth man and this is actually the truth we all know this is men
A woman can't sleep with a man without having some kind of emotional attachment. Men, we're very good at doing...
we can easily sleep with a girl and not really care. And that's the truth. We can do that. I kind of don't even know these girls' names, man.
Well, this is, so I'm not even lying. When I sit and say to my girl of six years, oh, yeah, I don't know.
I don't care anymore. Or like my girl of six years, she sometimes knows more about these chicks than me. She's like, oh, weren't you with this girl? She's got a boyfriend now. I'm like, she just stopped this motherfucker. Yeah. I was like, I don't care. Stop this motherfucker, man. And she actually likes that. I don't care.
She'll be like, "Oh, you don't care?" I was like, "Oh, I think I stopped talking to her two months ago." And I'm so obviously uninterested. She's secure enough now to know that I don't give a shit. All these, what they're worried about at first especially is that you're gonna sleep with some other girl and fall in love with some other girl and leave them.
that's what they're worried about but you know it's easy now it's been so many years it's like it's been six years and how many girls and here i am
You think I'm gonna know, is there gonna be some magical fucking chick I'm gonna run into? Like, we've been through too much of that shit. That'd be stupid.
what if you're a loser like me what if you're old washed up loser like me how does a guy keep in a relationship context like how do you how do you keep that girl happy you feel especially because I think that that's the downfall of a lot of relationships yeah and yeah I mean absolutely and I'm like I said I'm super happy about relationship we've been together six years etc all the stuff we said about attention and stuff that's definitely a big part of it but I think that's 90% I think 99% of a relationship is making sure that she respects you and you do that by making you respect yourself and just rewarding her a mate
behavior.
Like, yeah, it sounds stupid. Like one, a couple months ago, I woke up and she, she bought me a bunch of socks. I said, why you bought me socks? She goes, oh, I noticed you had a hole in your socks. And, and for that, I took her away for the weekend. We went skiing.
She's like well, and I said she goes why are you taking me skiing over socks? It's like because I like that you noticed and you went out your way and you did something but then when I said oh because she's my girl's Ukrainian
she really wants to come to america she's obsessed with america because they think of some promise man so i was coming here and she's like i really want to come i'm not taking you to the top
Oh, please, please, please. We got a little argument about it. And then, uh, I haven't spoke to her for like four days. She sent me a long email apologizing. I lost my temper. So it's just very much just keeping my frame. You act good. You got good things. You act stupid. And this has been six years in.
And I've had guys say to me, but don't you find it tiresome that you have to run game? I'm like, no, because...
This is just who I am as a person. You have to train yourself to be as that way. So it's not a game.
If you respect yourself as a person, it doesn't become a game. This is who I am and no one talks to me. If a man spoke to me the way you're speaking to me, it'd be a fight.
So now you want to come in my face and yell at me. I'm not no one does that to me I don't care who you are like I've had too many physical altercations with men have some chick in my face screaming at me
You know, so it's like you're gonna talk to me that way I'm out.
And that's just how it is. And I think that
it keeps it it keeps it interesting for the girl as well you know like sometimes you know i'll be good to get good things or if i act stupid he'll stop talking to me it gives them an objective as a little bit you know if you're nice to them all the time no matter what then they just get bored yeah a lot of it is you know another question when you were talking to me okay
back to what you said, let's say she stopped talking to those guys, right? And those guys stopped hitting her up and shit too.
Now those guys aren't giving her attention.
Does she start to long for that? Would that actually like push them towards those guys?
Intentionally.
Yeah, I mean, what I do, I say this all the time, if you say, look, stop talking to this dude and she'll do it, then I'll reward her for that.
Okay, we'll do this we'll do that or I'll not so you were placing the attention she got with the gut from from these other guys with more attention from you and
Okay, this is gonna sound, this is gonna be the worst thing I've said on the, this is gonna be the worst thing I've said on the, this is it. Okay, alright, cool. Buckle up, this is gonna sound bad, right? But I don't want, I don't want it to sound bad, I'm just trying to give an analogy. But when, this is gonna sound so bad. When you train a dog. Go on, go on. You give them a treat when they do the trick.
You don't give them a treat when they don't do the treat.
And that is the very basic psychology. It's the same. They do what they're supposed to do and they get something good. And if they do it wrong, they don't get anything.
You tell them to do it again. It's very, it's really simple. I don't want to compare women to dogs. I'm just trying to explain. That's just very simple. I don't have. I say, stop talking to this dude. And she stops talking to him. I'm like, is that idiot still texting you? Oh yeah. He still texts me. I was like, oh yeah, fuck him. We're going to go here today.
We're gonna go for a restaurant or something.
I did as I was told and now he's treating me nicer.
And it just reinforces the behavior.
So then you get to a point you get to a point where I'm in the club in Romania and I say to my chick she's hot go get her number Okay, I don't know she'll go over and get her Instagram and they'll become best friends and for you know, it's a threesome but that's just because after six years
She's just like, if I just do as Andrew says, everything works out good.
That's funny because that's literally the analogy I was thinking of the whole time. Everything you said about the whole attention thing so far, it seemed like that exact. I was just too afraid to say it, man. So I'm glad. I'm glad. I'm glad you said it. I'm glad you have the courage to say that, man. Yeah. I think women should learn this too because they fuck up, man. Because, for example, let's say a girl wants you to call her more. I'm using an example, right?
Right?
you will call her, right? And then
she'll get on the phone with you and complain about you not calling her yeah and then now that she's she's negatively reinforcing the actually behaviors she wants right if she was fucking happy on the phone i'm so glad you called me and she'd behave then you we would do it more too like we can be trained too like it's like a girl girl should learn this too man i think everybody would be happier if we just reinforce positive behavior and that's the thing it's just an animal thing in general like
don't want it to sound like a sexist thing like if women positively reinforce the behaviors that they wanted to see more - we would do we would we would happily absolutely absolutely it's the biggest mistake everyone makes and and calling is a perfect one my girl says something so you never call me so I'll call you when you act good oh what do you mean I'm I am good as I know you're not be good for a day see what happens and she'll be good for a day and I will call her
well all guys won't do the call you have you have to actually you got to do what's going on you know what she wants when she does it right and women I wish women would learn this man otherwise because they'll start like for example even like my mom this sounds crazy right but my mom is mad at me for not calling her enough because I'm busy man I'm out here doing gangsta shit and you're going to be telling me about the fucking weather and dumb shit or my dumb ass uncle who I don't give a fuck about right or some shit right and um
But when I do call her,
all I hear is, "Ah, you don't call me enough." And it's like, that makes me not wanna fucking call you. - Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's true.
are you hearing me mom I think I got cleaning here anyway um but yeah and this is one more thing like I get guys come to me and they go so what happens take if I try your stuff and she doesn't listen to me and she just walks she leaves because because it's a real worry for a lot of these guys especially like you know and and it's especially hard like if you've been a relationship for two years and
and now you're going to try and get gangster on her, it's going to be hard.
Like she's got a perception of you.
And this is what I try and say, that's why I start it.
certain way that's why I cut off the male friends and in the first couple weeks I'm like look this is not yeah it's not gonna go any further if it ain't gonna be this way you know so I gotta get the fuck out of here man because it's much easier to start on the right path than try and correct a fucked up path so basically every loser on here that's in a relationship it's fucked I mean start completely over I wouldn't say it's fucked but I'm saying that so I
Like I said, I look at the world through chess, et cetera. But I have this view of it where what's the worst that can happen? And the worst that can happen is she leaves. But I kind of sit and think,
A lot of the guys, I get emails from guys and the scenarios they're explaining to me,
they're not worth having you're like oh but she does this she does this I'm like and you and you still want her bro right you see you've got you've got have enough honor to go you know what I deserve better I'm out and at least you can walk with your head held high and what might happen is you might shock her into changing but she ain't expecting that
If you, she ain't expecting you to go, you know what,
I love you, bye. And mean it.
that you know Trump I'm a huge Trump fan but Trump I got friends I got friends I got friends who's like fucking campaign from Bernie I got friends who fucking go hard for Trump so like I'm in the middle like I'm in the middle of there like I I listen to anyone man they talking the way I want to hear man but Trump wrote the book the art of the deal and he said the number one thing you need
His man wrote the book.
Yeah.
Oh, yeah, true. Yeah. You have to be prepared to walk away from the table.
It's your number one negotiating tool. It's your absolute negotiating tool. You have to be prepared to walk away. And maybe that'll fuck the whole thing up.
But I had, okay, so I'll give you an example. I had a guy who came to me and I was coaching him. He's like, my girl's hanging around with all these dudes and they're smoking weed, all this shit we've talked about. And I was like, bro, just dump her. Just tell her, look, you're unhappy in this situation. You care about her a lot. You deserve it. This is not the kind of relationship you want to end up in in a long term. You're not wasting your time.
and just bail off.
He goes, "Oh, but what if she sleeps with one of those guys?" I was like, "Look,
if at least that way you walk away with your head held high if this carries on the way it's going she's gonna cheat on you anyway like so like so where so why are you losing people are so desperate to hold on to the girl for a couple extra weeks that they want to sacrifice all their honor
And they want to sacrifice their negotiating position. Because if you walk away, it might make her sit and go, oh, fuck.
Okay.
Even if it's a 10% chance, it's a chance.
She ain't going to change her mind if you're staying with her while she fucking does it.
She's gonna change her mind then. So like a lot of people are afraid to walk away because they're like, oh, I might lose that exchange. And I say, yeah, but it's the only move you have on the board.
You might lose the chess game, but it's the only move that makes any kind of sense. So what else you're gonna do? Dude, you know what I mean? Like, you know, you shouldn't, you should, I mean...
I don't know, the three of us, like, look, we wanted to, right? We probably just won't have a problem finding the hot shit. And so, like, the thing is, all y'all listening, man, to become more like us, man. Yeah, man, just listen to the Adonix podcast every week. Go follow us on social media. Yeah.
And yeah, you'll be good. That's pretty much it. Well, that's true.
- That's true. - You got one concept, man. Can you tell them, my man, my man who put me on here, he's newly single, so he got deep into your content, and that's why he put me on, to you. And he was telling me about FDB.
Can you explain FDB? Yeah, okay. So that's the term I use for FDB. You can work out what it means, what it says. But it's the term I use basically to just stop talking to a girl and cut off all her attention. FDB. So Tristan will say, where are you talking to that girl about FDB? Tristan's my brother. I'm like, because we're together every day. And I'm like, where are you talking to that girl? I'm like, FDB. And that just means like, fuck that bitch. It's just like, bye. Just cut it off. So, and I'll do that over small. I'll do that over what
like small things but I know they're not small because I know it's actually a power struggle with the chick you know and she's trying to she's trying to assert some dominance if you start a relationship in a dominant position and
It's very difficult to fuck that up. So I always start the position, I always start the relationship in a super nice, friendly, I'm the nicest guy in the world, but I am in charge. I see you when I say, we go where I say.
I want to see you today. I'm busy today tomorrow. Oh, I can't do tomorrow FDB
You know that's just how it is because then oh, what about this day then they then they then they learn oh shit I tried to tell him something and he didn't listen and that's from the beginning and
And I just do that because,
I know what it takes. We all have to be selfish.
And I know what it takes for me to be happy. And I'm telling you now, if a man is in charge of a relationship, if the man ain't happy,
Women are emotional sponges. This is why I say another thing to guys I say all the time. I say, haven't you ever been in a shit mood and a terrible mood and you come home to your chick and you end up arguing with her? Because you're in a negative mood. They absorb your negativity. And before you know it, you're both in a bad mood. Whereas if you come home and you're super happy –
She'll end up happy.
women they feed off the energy of their man so i said if you're not happy
She's never going to be happy anyway.
So you have to set standards that allow you to be happy in the relationship or you're always fucked.
so my standards are i'm in charge you do as i say you don't talk to any other guys you're happy and you're horny those are my standards and that's what i want and i refuse to compromise because there's no point in compromising because it's just going to be misery for everybody and that's basically what it is sometimes a compromise man like it's a good analogy man there's a book called i never split the difference it's written by never split the difference it is written by a fbi negotiator he said man
When you split the difference or you like compromise too much, it's like he gave an analogy like, yo, I want to wear black shoes and your girl wants you to wear black shoes.
brown shoes. So you compromise, you wear one brown shoe and one black shoe. Nobody's happy. You just look fucking ridiculous. You know what I'm saying?
- Absolutely, exactly, exactly right. And I mean, maybe it's just a type of, in fact, no, I wouldn't say it's the type of women I attract, it's the type of women I stay with,
Because that's the only way the relationship works is women who are happy to submit to a man who they genuinely respect. But that's the relationship I'm happy with.
If I meet a girl who refuses to submit to a man she respects, I don't want to be with her. And you should respect the girl, too. So she's doing shit you don't respect, like fucking leading on all these guy friends or acting fucking crazy all the time or motherfucking getting high all the time. Whatever it is that you fucking don't hear me. Whatever. It's your own criteria. If you don't respect her, why are you even fucking with her?
you should respect her too and or or or or teach her what you find yeah you got to respect her too it's like we're both ways otherwise you won't fuck with her like and that's and that's down to a lot less down to a lack of choices for a lot of guys like me personally i don't i personally i don't do drugs and that's because i fought for a long time i was drug tested i don't do drugs and i don't like girls who do drugs yeah so i'm addicted to nicotine yeah quit smoking cigarettes a few years ago but i still dig into nicotine um that's when i say drug i mean like
class A's and shit. I drink, I smoke cigars, whatever. We got a link up. I smoke cigars. Let's do it, bro. So if I meet a girl and she does a load of Coke or something, I just say, I don't, I don't, I'm not really into that. She goes, well, why? I said, well, it's just not something I do. And what I do is I frame it my way. I'll say, look, I don't, I'm not going to have a long-term relationship with someone who's doing drugs. It's not about, I don't insult her. I just say, look, I do not see myself
long-term with a girl who's doing drugs punish the behavior not the girl yeah so you start saying that and you know especially if she likes you and you're dick it or good whatever and she's like well you if you ever want to get serious you can't be fucking run around taking cocaine I'm not going out I'm not being serious to that kind of girl yo this is dope man unfortunately we're running out of time man listen and no no it's dope man's dope it's like um because I got it I got a meeting this shit you know but uh yo we gonna have the links your Andrews got a course on all this
PhD course is going to teach you
Like, yo, my boy went through it and he said it changed his life, man. And this dude is a baller. He's a boss. Like, he makes hella money. He lives in a fucking penthouse in Miami. And he's doing big things.
You know, you think a guy like he can just get in here only one, but he learns so much from your shit that he's like pretty has a good dating life. You know what I'm saying? And so there'll be linked to that in the show notes. And where can they follow you on social media? Yeah, man. So I'm glad he said that about the course. And a lot of people ask me about the course. And I'll just quickly say, like, there's a bunch of courses on how to pick up girls. My course is more than that. It's about how to have women genuinely love you and respect you. And I think all of us really know deep down that's what we want. We don't want a whole bunch of pointless sex with sevens.
You want a nine or 10 who will visit us every day if we go to jail. That's what you want, really, as a man. You want that ride or die chicken. That's what a lot of my course is about.
I keep getting banned on Twitter. I've been banned nine times, so there's no point even following me there. I'm on Instagram at Cobra Tate.
Um,
and I'm not as many followers as you I'm not famous as you just so good so you not you have a more niche audience you see yeah Instagram is gangster fucking dope cars don't like look like you look and you in a front I'm saying you teach that in the course the actual how to make your Instagram look dope
Yeah, I say to people that now we live in the world of social media and Instagram is extremely important. It's a snapshot of your life.
I get guys come to me and they're like oh yeah and I look at their Instagram it's like your life man you look bored at your mind like a loser you are bro yeah exactly you go you go you know show some kind of you know
Everyone, we all know this from a marketing perspective, but even then, a woman's going to check out your Instagram and your life looks boring. Where's the adventure for her? So it doesn't matter even if your life is boring, at least put a spin on it.
Yeah, for sure, for sure. So I'm on Cobra Tate Instagram.
And then I'm on YouTube as well, Tate Speech, which is a play on hate speech because that's why I love it. Yeah, because you're real right wing. You know what I mean? So if you're into that, you'll enjoy it. I'm not right wing, right? But it's still like some good content over there, man. So that's dope. Awesome, man. Yo, Andrew, I appreciate you being on the podcast, man. I enjoyed it. I felt like I was just attending a freaking seminar. I have so much amazing information. I just love sitting back and listening. So I appreciate it, man.
follow Andrew and yeah man this has been another episode of the Adonix podcast see you guys next week peace later thank you for listening to the Adonix podcast be sure to subscribe and leave us a helpful review on iTunes if you want more from Connor Murphy and Brandon Carter just Google search their names and something dope will come up
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