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Right, PhD course, gentlemen.
I have some questions here.
Let me go through them.
Question one.
Tate, how do you handle more... How do you...
- Thank you.
No edits. Leave it. How do you handle multiple girlfriends?
Do you explicitly tell them about others? What's the process of them finding this out? Right. You can't get a girl, make her love you, and then go out for dinner and sit her there and go, "By the way, I've got loads of girls."
Because it just makes you look like a dick.
So what you do is you hide it the best you can, basically. You hide it.
until she finds out.
And then when she finds out, you just super downplay it. So actually, last night...
last night, one of my girls arena,
found out, found a, she's dark-haired, she found a blonde hair on my bed. She goes, "Who's been staying in this bed?"
I said, "Well, me?"
She goes, "Well, whose hair is this?"
I said, I don't know. I'm not always in the house. People sit on beds. Maybe they didn't sleep in the bed. I don't know. It's 1 o'clock in the morning. I'm not sitting here and talking about hair in a bed.
Well, how do I know you don't have other girls? Say, don't, just shut up. You're being juvenile. We're going to sleep.
and we went to sleep.
So basically the exchange was, she knows I fucked a girl. I said it doesn't matter. Everything's fine. We're going to bed.
It's about playing off as nothing. So when she catches you, who's this other girl? Oh, it's some girl I talked to. Well, she says you're her boyfriend. Oh, yeah, I fucked her a few times, but it's not a big deal. You know I'm with you. What? You're cheating on me. I'm not cheating on you because I love you. It's not cheating if I only love you.
It's only cheating if it's emotional. It's not emotional with her. Just fucking calm down.
If she says she wants to leave and she tries to leave you, FDB. Because what happens is when drama kicks off, girls want attention.
The girl's just found out you're cheating. She wants a big episode. She wants you to apologize. She wants sorries. She wants all this shit going on.
If you don't give a fuck,
Then she's going to be like, "Well, you don't even seem to care." I was like, "Well, I don't care because I don't feel bad because it wasn't a big deal.
And she'll be like, "Well, why don't you feel bad? Because I didn't have any emotion. I don't feel bad because I don't feel like I did anything wrong because...
To me it was nothing. It's like you using a dildo. Who gives a shit?
just completely trivialize their emotionality and tell them they're juvenile to give a fuck.
and eventually,
You'll get away with having two. Now, they might not be happy about it. They might cry about it. They might moan about it. They might be like, "Oh, you're always with that bitch."
But they ain't gonna leave.
And that's how you have two girlfriends. That's how you start with it.
A lot of his experience, it depends on the actual girl,
who you're talking about, who the first girl is, who the second girl is, like everything is experienced. It's like me telling you how to punch someone in the face. It's experienced. It depends who they are, how big they are, if they move, whatever.
But that's the basis of it. You don't sit down and just try and explain it.
With women,
You never just try and do, I say a business deal,
a business deal. You don't sit down and appeal to their logic. If you appeal to their logic, you'll fail.
If you sit down and go, "Hi, I'm going to have other girls. Here's why. Here's why it doesn't bother you. It's okay." It ain't going to work. It ain't going to work. You cannot appeal to their common sense. You just have to wait for them to find out and handle the emotionality correctly.
Limit your attention in the correct way.
so that she understands that if she leaves, you're just going to go back to fucking the other girl.
That's it. You can just say, look, I really like you. I want us to be together. If you leave, then I'm just going to, you know, I'll have to be single, won't I? But...
It's not a big deal. Don't worry about it.
Just don't piss me off.
And just...
Be super, just completely trivialized.
Her feelings. That's what you have to do. That's how you play it. Like I did last night. "Oh, you found some hair in the bed. It's two o'clock in the fucking morning. Are we going to sleep or what?"
Oh, but you cheated. It's two o'clock. I'm going to sleep.
It's hair. Who gives a fuck? You have hair, I have hair. It's hair.
As in, it's not even a thing.
Today she hasn't even mentioned it. 'Cause she knows, she ain't fucking dumb. She's seen me with blonde girls all over my Instagram. She knows I'm fucking one of them. She ain't that stupid.
She just doesn't want to know. So now she's willfully ignorant.
which is fine by me.
How to play it properly when a girl you like is a virgin? Well, lucky gentleman, you have to play a lot slower.
Same basic principles, attention, blah, blah, blah, blah. Play it slower. Let her get away with more. Take your time. You can't be expecting to bank a version on her second date. That's crazy.
Next.
Can you elaborate more on compliance after she passed the test?
Well, she passes the test.
then you're starting a relationship in a position of power, aren't you?
You're now in a position of power.
You fucked her.
She's chased you.
which is good, she wants your attention, she's actively shown that, you're now starting to give her a little bit of attention. But if she fucks up, you cut the attention quick,
And she should cave quickly because she knows.
This is not a guy who I can fuck with because he'll take all of his attention away.
So after that, it's just a matter of managing the relationship. I mean, if she's completely honest and open, I've had girls after they passed the test,
Say to me, "I really love you. I know I shouldn't say this. I'm completely in love with you."
If someone's gonna be that honest and open, you don't have to be a dickhead to them. You'll be like, "Okay, good. I love you, you love me, everything's fine."
Obviously you don't take shit. You haven't got to be a dickhead in any way.
Then you get the girls who still want to play the games. If they still want to play the games even after they've paid the test, then okay, cool, FDB them.
It's just a repeating cycle.
The PhD system and relationships, it never ends.
You never get to a point where it's like, okay, she's now programmed as a robot slave. I'm done.
I've been with my girl six years and still to this day I use game. Otherwise she gets out of control.
If I'm too nice to my girl now, after six years, she still gets out of control.
So it's a never-ending philosophy.
Sometimes hoes need to be ignored.
No matter how long you've been with them. Sometimes you have to FDB them. Sometimes you have to show them you don't take shit. No matter how long you've been with them, that is a universal truth.
So you start a relationship in a dominant position,
which of course is important.
From the position of dominance, you maintain it.
very much like a poker game or chess game. You have the advantage, you just play your advantage.
It's as simple as that.
Next question.
How do you manage hierarchies, let's say with two girls?
Does the first girl have seniority over the second girl?
No.
Girls won't take that. If you have one girl who's clearly better than the other one, you're going to struggle massively. The second girl is just not going to stick around for very long.
I've had it where I've had girls who say, oh, I know you're with Vivian. I know you've been with her a long time. I don't mind. I'll stay out tonight. You two stay alone. All that shit. But it never lasts long.
Because the ones who are really in love with you won't do that.
So the only girls that do that aren't really in love with you.
You have to be such an imposing dominating force.
that there's no room for hierarchy underneath you.
You have to be like,
And when I say imposing and dominating, I'm not talking about being a psycho. I mean, your personality has to be so large that you're in charge of everything. There is no hierarchy. How can there be a hierarchy?
You just have to be like, "Okay, I need a coffee."
You make me a coffee and you cook me something.
If you send one to make the coffee, then there's a hierarchy.
Either way, if you send one to make the coffee, it can either be seen as you trust her more and want her more or she's lower than the other one because she's a slave.
Women will always just make up a reason.
So it doesn't matter which one you choose, they'll decide it's negative.
So you have to send them both.
Go make me a coffee. Who? Both of you. Go.
You have to be like that. You have to be dominant to a point where there's no room for hierarchy.
It's just you and everyone else.
Now that's easy for my personality, for other people it can be slightly harder, but there's a whole bunch of stupid fiddly shit you need to learn to do if you want to truly have two girls in the long term.
You got to learn to sleep on your back. You can't sleep on your side.
You sleep on your right side.
I'm telling you now, whichever girl you're looking at when you're sleeping, the other one's gonna be pissed.
Maybe not the first night, but by night 10 she will.
"Oh, you're always facing her and you're hugging her, and I'm on my own."
This is a little dumb shit you have to deal with.
But basically you have to be big, large enough personality that you handle it. There is no hierarchy. You can't clearly have women below women. They don't like that shit.
What you do when you're in my situation, we have a girlfriend of six years.
and you try and bring a new girl in,
You actually have to downplay your relationship with the girl of six years, which is difficult.
And I only get away with that because the girl of six years plays along.
So Vivian's been with me six years. She's completely head over heels in love with me. She wants kids with me, everything, everything, everything.
And we met and we felt whatever, we're in love. But when a new girl comes, she'll go, "Oh yeah, I started off working for him." And you know, it's just how it worked out.
She'll super downplay us.
So that the new girl feels like, "Ah, well, they're just kind of work and sex, and now I'm here and he likes me."
and she can believe in her mind
that she can be equal.
If Vivian was completely honest, well, he's been with me six years and we're going to be together forever, so you're just a side bitch. Then it's not going to ever work.
So it also depends how much control you have over your bottom bitch, because you have to be able to have her on side playing the game.
That's super important.
Key is...
It's you and everyone else. There is no hierarchy below you.
Can you break down your own situation? So
I got it.
Two main bitches.
I'm gonna deal with my fire, gentlemen.
I got two main girls.
I've got Melissa.
and Vivian.
Bye.
Now Melissa,
and Vivian started off together.
After two years of slamming them every day together, tensions were getting a bit crazy. I mean, I could have held it together forever, but it was just to a point where it's just like, oh.
Shut up.
Everyone made a happy agreement that they'd be separate. I'd still be with both of them, but they don't want to live together anymore. That's fine.
When I bring on new girls, I usually pair them with Vivian.
Because Vivian's younger,
Melissa's like 28, Vivian's like 21.
Vivian's younger, she's more fun, more outgoing. Melissa's really quite, not in a bad way, she's more homey, boring, sits at home.
So if you're going to pair a girl with a girl, it's much easier if the girl's fun.
Let's all go to the club.
Let's all drink champagne. Let's all do this. Let's go here. Let's go here. That's what it does. So since I've had Vivian,
I've had five other girlfriends who I've shared with Vivian.
Some last a couple weeks, some last a couple months, one lasted a year.
So I've had Jenny, the dark haired one, I've had Andrada, the other one. These are all on my Instagrams or my Twitter, you would have seen them at some point.
I've had loads of hot girls who come in,
Vivian's already there.
They join, like I said, Vivian downplays it.
Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And for different reasons, it breaks up. Like you've seen some of my threads about the dark haired girl trying to give me an ultimatum or Jenny who went to the festival against the rules.
Sometimes they rebel, I have to FDB them.
But that's basically how it works. I've got my main bitch, my bottom bitch, Vivian.
I could do it with Melissa too, but she's, you know, I just do it with Vivian for some reason. That's how it's worked out. My main bitch, Vivian, and I bring in new girlfriends and they're temporary. If I get one that sticks forever, whatever, good.
I had one recently that stayed for a very long time.
But if they leave, they leave. Who gives a chef? Find a new one.
That's my basic situation. I've got a girl calling me right now. I'm going to hang up with her.
Right.
So a description of your relationship process with Vivian. So yeah, that's how it started. I met Vivian
In Slovakia,
We had a long-term relationship thing. I was living in England.
It's a really long story. I don't want to tell you the whole story. I moved her to England to be with me to start doing my webcam company, which I started. If you don't have a webcam company, you need to look into it. As soon as you have a couple of girls in love with you, it's the fucking easiest money in the world.
No, I take that back. It's not easy money.
You gotta build up. But once you get girls built up, then it's free money.
Like every other business you go and build it out.
But I decided I want to start a webcam business. Vivian's beautiful. I said, look, stop being a waitress, come here live with me.
She came.
Everything was fine for a couple of weeks. Melissa obviously lived in England. They didn't know about each other. They found out. They tried to have a big argument with me. I did exactly as I said, downplayed it, didn't give a shit. Everyone moved in together. Everyone started doing webcam. I was making loads of money.
Then we agreed to the split, like we said.
And that's basically been it since then. New girls have come along. Vivian understands that I'm fucking these hoes, but I don't care about these hoes.
I've seen, I've done it.
When I do it, I prove it to her.
This is another important thing, guys.
If you're going to say to one girl that you're the only one I care about, and she's going to see you fucking these other girls,
When those other girls eventually leave or you FDB them,
You got to use that.
to your advantage.
So I'll come home sometimes to Vivian and say, Jenny's gone. She'll go, what? What do you mean Jenny's gone? Oh, she annoyed me, so I'm going to get rid of her.
What do you mean she annoyed you? Ah, she did something small, but she annoyed me so. Bye.
And they like that.
She's like, well, you got rid of her over nothing? I was like, oh, yeah, she annoyed me. FDB. FDB.
And that makes her feel secure that these other girls, he really doesn't give a fuck.
Like he'll just get rid of him for no reason.
Use that to your advantage as well.
And that's the basic dynamic of my relationship with Vivian. She now knows what I do.
Last night, I just put in the wardrobe room,
Telegram. If you're not in the war room as well, motherfuckers, you've got to get in on there.
It's too much shit happening you're missing out on. I just put in the war room telegram, my text conversation with her last night. She goes, "You coming home?" I said, "No." She goes, "What girl are you staying with?"
Vivian now is just nosy. She isn't jealous, she's just nosy.
Just curious.
So I'm staying with Alina or Alina or whoever.
Okay, alright, see you tomorrow.
So there's no secrets, no hiding. She knows I'm fucking all these girls. She doesn't care.
So if I want to fuck her with a girl, I'll say, look, we're going out.
I'll just introduce booze.
So like the first time I threw some a lot of girls, I'll say, oh yeah, we're going out. Some other girls are coming. What girls? Girls I know.
and Viv will turn up and we'll just be there, I'm going to be drinking. I'll just say, I'll just say, I'll just throw them in the fuck you both.
No, you're not.
So I'm gonna fuck you both. And Vivian will just like laugh. Just play off. Ha ha ha. Very funny.
I'll get in the taxi at the end. Where are we going? My house.
Just fucking just own it.
I don't want to speak to you both. Okay, bye.
See ya.
and fuck with me then
"What? Who's this? I thought she just worked for you. Who's this girl? You're supposed to be my boyfriend." "Look, stop being fucking boring. We're going to my house. Shut up."
You just gotta own it.
Say, come, suck dick.
Right.
I'm not saying be a rapist.
I feel like I always have to fucking clarify myself because to me it's super obvious, but there's some weirdos out there that don't fucking think. You cannot force a girl to do anything.
You just have to make it clear of your objective.
You're a train.
A train stays on the track.
I'm a train on this track.
You either get on the train and go to the destination or you get off the train and you don't.
Trains don't go off tracks.
It's that simple. I'm fucking Vivian tonight.
"You're coming with me and you're helping me fuck Vivian, "or you're not." But this is where the train's headed.
That's how you have to be.
Don't be a creepy weirdo, please.
Right.
One more question I'm going to do for this video.
I have a lot of questions I need to handle, but
I'm going to do one more for this.
Do I believe in negging girls?
- Negging girls is calling them names, or saying something negative to them. That's some pick up artist bullshit that the red pill guys do. No, I don't believe in that. I believe you need to tease them
Have a joke with them, like, you know, everyone knows how to tease a girl like she's a kid sister. Have a joke. But don't be negative. Don't be aggressive.
I've seen loads of dudes on dates just talking to a girl like shit, like they're the man. And it's not cool. You don't look cool. You look like a cunt.
If you're deaf, if you're genuinely an alpha, you don't need to impose your superiority by insulting her.
So what you're trying to do by insulting her is bring her down a peg. Well, if you're already above her, you don't need to bring her down.
So I don't think it's alpha to be out there insulting girls. But obviously you can tease her and make fun of her a little bit, of course.
But once again, this comes to experience. This is down to experience. It depends on the girl you're talking to.
You have to gauge the conversation, gauge who she is, and play it accordingly.
So that's it for this episode. Another video coming soon.